Stuck on stupid

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see url I’ve been hearing this a lot lately from bunch of my readers and girlfriends, that we all seem to be stuck on stupid.

http://rlpattersonart.com/tag/afrocentric/page/6/ What I mean by that is we have been hurt, used and  abused. We have been an afterthought, we have been ghosted, cheated on, lied to and yet when a good man comes along we can’t see him for what he’s worth because we’re still stuck on stupid.

Even though in our heads we know what stupid looks like, we know what stupid sounds like, we remember what stupid did and even if we are learning to know  our value, for some reason our hearts does not see any of that.

Our heart keeps telling us how much we miss them, how things remind us of them, how maybe there might be another chance… It’s almost like there’s two people in your body, the one person with the brain telling you
“Are you joking? Do not remember what this man did to you? Remember how many times you cried because of him, you do you know that he’s going to hurt you yet again because he’s proven that to you over and over”

And then here’s this other person living in la-la land saying “oh he might have change…oh but don’t you remember how wonderful it was? Remember when he told you this or that…  you’re beautiful or he wanted to spend 50 years with you, remember all the times you laid in bed and talked for hours or all the good times you shared together” And you think wasn’t that good?

How many of us have men who are willing to step up, who do the right things, who say the right things, who text you every morning just to say good morning or good night and sweet dreams?
Men who are willing to step up yet we are still stuck on stupid?

Too many, as I am finding out lately..way too many… yet we still do this…
I know I am not alone on this stupid train and I still wonder why we do this? Why we keep thinking of them, why when we run into them it’s like a punch in the gut, like all the air is sucked out of you and your standing there gasping even when your head is saying run, your heart won’t let you…

When you think your good, when you’ve thought you’ve moved on, when your heart is starting to heal and BAM! Here he is yet again ripping that newly healed scab off.

Yes, we have heard it all from friends and family, he’s no good, move on, you deserve better, he’s an asshole….yes, we know all of that…believe us we’ve cried too many tears for that man and lost too many nights sleep over him, this is nothing new…we know…we get it…
Now we are just trying to tell our hearts this, to recognize this fact.

It is a day by day process, we need to dig deep and try to figure out why we think it’s okay to keep being treated like this, maybe it’s that we are being rejected and we are trying to get them at all costs, maybe we have issues, like me of trying to win love like I’ve always done, starting with my grandma, to my best friend, to my ex husband, patterns I keep repeating in my life.
Maybe it’s low self esteem, you don’t think your worthy or no one else will come and so you settle, whatever the reason we need to address it and we need to fix it, because being stuck on stupid is not an option anymore.

I did not stay in a loveless, abuisve marriage for 24 years to be treated bad yet again now that I am free.

I am human, I am learning and growing each and every day and I know my worth and what I want from my next relationship, I want it all, I expect it all…why? Because I give my all that’s why and I expect the same in return. So this time I will not settle no matter what my heart is saying, I am going to be Judge Judy and overrule that shit!

So too all my queens out there, remember we are all learning and growing together, it’s okay if we slip and fall sometimes, as long as we pick ourselves up and know what we have to continue to strive for and it’s surly not being stuck on stupid!

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Giving Tuesday

Giving Tuesday

Today is giving Tuesday, a day to give back to our world, to our community, to people less fortunate than us.

Now you know how I feel about having to have “days” to tell us what we should already know but if it helps others to remember to be a good person, then I am all for it.

Here’s the thing about giving, it’s an amazing feeling, there is no other feeling in the world. Every year my church does a feed the community day, the Saturday before Thanksgiving. We give out 3 bags of groceries and a turkey to 2000 families.

I have been running the elderly room there for the last 5 years, we take the elderly out of the lines, we bring them into a air conditioned room and we have our young volunteers help them to their cars, to the bus or even walk them home.

I can not tell you how grateful these people are, how many times I have gotten hugged, kissed or told God bless you. I have had people literally cry because they wouldn’t have had a Thanksgiving without us.

It humbles you, I always remember “There before the grace of God, goes I”
Yes, that could be anyone of us at any time, most people are one paycheck from being homeless.

One illness, one break up, one job lost and we could be in need. Yes, we need to help out our neighbors, we need to help out each other, like we do in our single mom community. We find out that a mom is struggling and we help out. We give her gas money, we bring food to her, we watch her kids, whatever to help each other out.

I am big with women in distress, I give all I get from clients to them, I volunteer my time, I speak to the women there and tell them I understand, I know what it’s like to be in that abuisve relationship and how we can change the pattern.

I help out my church family when I know someone is in need, I volunteer for any and all events I can, to help out my Bishop and our causes.

For years I volunteered at Habitat for Humanity, building houses along side one of my best friends, which is how I actually met her in the first place.

Yes, I am busy, yes, I work 3 jobs, have 2 children, I write this blog on the treadmill every morning at 5:30 am and have a full life but what is life if your too busy to help out another human being? What does that say about you?

I have to do this, I don’t need a day to tell me to do the right thing, I don’t need Thanksgiving to tell me to be grateful, I don’t need national sit down for dinner with your family day, to tell me to do this. These are things I do each and every day because it is natural to me, like breathing.

So today my friends, ask yourself, are you really that busy? Do you not have an hour of your time, can you not ask a elderly neighbor if they need help, bring a single mom a bag of groceries, to help someone in need?

We need to check ourselves, to see why the world is the way it is today, it’s because we are all “too busy” to help and most importantly we need to teach our children what is truly important in life…giving of yourself, of your time, of your heart…

Make giving Tuesday, not just a yearly thing, but a daily thing…
Make it giving everyday….

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All that I am thankful for

All that I am thankful for

I hope that everyone had an amazing Thanksgiving weekend, I decided to take off and do nothing but chill on the beach as I needed some much needed rest.

I was lucky enough to spend time with my girls and my friends all weekend long.
This time off gave me alot of time to reflect over my life this past year and the things I am truly grateful for.

I am truly thankful for God, for without him none of this would be possible. I know his grace and mercy over my life has kept me, even though at times I didn’t deserve it.

I am thankful for my girls, as much as they sometimes piss me off, they are good girls, with big hearts and they are what I live for, they are my heart and soul.

I am thankful for my church, my Bishop and my church family. God knew what he was doing when he sent me there, as they have literally saved my life. They have been there for me whenever I needed anything and they support and love me no matter what.

I am thankful for my friends and my family, as I am blessed to have an amazing support system around me. I know I can count on them and they can count on me in good times and bad.

I am thankful God’s favor over my life, our health and all that I have. I am thankful he gave me this business, this home and that he continues to place favor all over our lives.

I am thankful for the lessons God has taught me this year, even though some of them were so painful, I know I had to learn them. I had to learn that not everyone comes for the whole ride, that not everyone has your back, that even your guardian angel can fall from grace.

I am thankful for the friends that stood up for me and always have my back, teaching me that yes, I can count on them.

I am thankful for the pain I’ve had falling in love with the wrong men because it taught me what I deserve and I will know what a good man will look like when God finally brings him into my life.

I am thankful for all the hard work I’ve done because it makes me appreciate all I have that much more.

I am thankful for learning to live in the moment, leaving the dishes, enjoying time I could never get back with the people I love.

I am thankful for letting go of fear, for stepping into the unknown and doing things I’ve might not have done otherwise…life changing things, like walking on fire!

And I am truly thankful for the gift of gratitude, I am so very grateful for everything I have in my life, there is not a day that goes by that I am not overwhelmed by all I have, the peace, the joy, all of my life, so much so that it bring me to tears constantly.

So today my friends remember for all that you have, be grateful and thankful for it, not just on Thanksgiving but through out the year because life is too short and you never know what can happen tomorrow…live in the moment…laugh often, love big…live life large!

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Unless you’ve been thsre

Unless you’ve been there..

Every one of us has been through things in our lives, divorce, death of a loved one, or multiple loved ones, sickness, deceit, even back stabbing by so called friends or family.

Some of us have been lied to, cheated on, been through drug and alcohol addiction, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, rape and even more incredibly traumatic events.

But how can I relate to you if I didn’t go through it? How can I be a comfort to you and give you advise if I don’t know your pain, if I personally didn’t know or go through your struggle.

I can’t tell you I know how you feel, because I can’t possibly know how you feel if I haven’t been there and that’s a fact. Yes, I can be sympathetic, I can be there and listen but I couldn’t imagine what your feeling unless I once felt that pain in my life.

As much as I would have liked to have a “perfect” life without all my hardships and tragedies, if I did I wouldn’t be able to sit here and write this blog.

I wouldn’t be able to touch so many of you who write to me and tell me how my words helped them. I would just be giving lip service to something I knew nothing about and you would be able to see right through me.

Since I’ve started making my YouTube videos again, so many people lately, have said the same thing to me, that I am real and raw, that is what makes me so relatable because they can see I’ve been there, I’ve been hurt, I know addiction, I know the pain of a abuisve relationship, the fact I’ve picked losers over and over, I know what the bottom looks like and so they can relate.

I had to go through all I did so that I could help others, so that I can say I know how you feel at this moment but I am here to tell you that it will be okay. That you will get through it, even though it seems like you’ve hit rock bottom, even when you can’t see any light, it will be okay, I’ve been there too.

I know it seems hopeless now but I survived and you can too, just hold on and know your not alone, you are not the only one suffering or has suffered.
It will get better, it can and will be incredible if you just hold on to the tiniest mustard seed of hope.

How would I know it will get better if it hasn’t already happened to me? How would I know how it feels to hold on, to believe and to literally visualize a better life for myself and then have it all come to pass, if I didn’t do it myself.

I needed to go through all of this to be able to comfort others just as you need to go through your struggles so that you may help someone else out.

So today my friends, remember you needed to go through all you’ve been through for a reason, you may not be able to see it now, there may only be blackness and storms, you may be barely able to breathe, but eventually the sun will come out again, there will be a rainbow after the storm and you will know your strength and be able to say…I’ve been there…let me help you…this is my story…this is my testimony, I’ve been there.

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Single mom’s

Single mom’s

I have to talk about this subject as I don’t think we as single mom’s get enough credit for what we do.
This is also a shout out to my single dad’s who are holding it down as well.

This is the hardest job you’ve ever had, to put someone else’s needs above yours, to give of yourself all the time and not feel appreciated. To do it all and not feel like it’s enough or second guess yourself,  asking did you do the right thing?

I am blessed to have a community of single mom’s in my life, amazing women who are holding it down despite their circumstances.
We help each other out, we watch each other kids, we help out when money is tight and food is low.
We are there to talk with, to cry with, to ask what are we doing wrong?

We support each other and uplift each other because we know what an incredibly hard job it is we are doing.

We have to work, some of us multiple jobs, then pick up kids, come home to cook dinner, clean up, do homework, give baths, read bedtime stories and put the kids down. Our day is far from over as then we are straightening up the house, doing laundry, paying bills and getting things ready for the next day. When we wake up we are still tired but there is no rest for the weary as we are it. We have to get it together to get them up, dressed and fed before we drop them off to school and make it to work on time.

For some of us, we have downgraded from a higher life style and had to make due. Some hardly get child support like me or get none at all. But no matter what we make it work, we stretch a dollar till it screams, we magically make dinner appear out of nothing and we smile like we have it all together. At night we cry in our pillows as we are so very tired and feel like the world is falling in on us yet in the morning we put a smile on because we must be strong for the sake of our kids.

We try to date with what little spare time we have but the pickings are slim and we have to always remember that our children come first and who we let into their lives, effects them.
So it is extremely hard to do this, especially for us Christian mom’s who are looking for a Christian man, see that is like finding a needle in a haystack! Yet we hold on to faith that one day a good man will come into our lives.

Even for single mom’s like me who have older children it doesn’t stop, they need books for college, gas for their car, help with homework…still! They are still living at home but with a “grown-up” mind that you have to deal with and still set your boundaries as a parent.

It never stops and it never gets easier, it’s a thankless job that gives the most love. It is a rollercoaster ride of laughs, ass whoopings, smiles, aggravation and amazing love like you’ve never felt before.

So today my friends, remember that being a single mom is the hardest job in the world, help one out today, take them some groceries, treat them to a day at the spa, watch their children for a few hours so they can have some me time. You never know how much they are struggling as they always look like they have it together, any act of kindness will give them hope to make it through another day.

To all my single mom’s out there, I love you, you are my hero’s, you are amazing, beautiful, smart women who I look up to each and every day and I am blessed to call you my friends…
Thank you for doing all that you do ♡♡♡

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How to defeat fear in your life

How to defeat fear in your life.

Fear is:
F= false
E= evidence
A= appearing
R= real

That is what fear is, its that small voice in the back of you head saying “You cant do that, are you crazy?”
“That will never work?

It will overrule everything else if you let it, it will get you to believe it is real. See faith needs no evidence to know that its real. Fear will have to present evidence that you will fail.

Faith is the confidence, the assurance of things not seen, you cant see God but yet you believe. You say to yourself, I don’t know when it is going to happen, but I know it will. I don’t have to see it to believe it.

Fear says “See there is nothing happening in your life, you have a generational curse on your life.You can never accomplish that”

So how do we make sense of so many testimonies about things that make no sense at all, like a persons mortgage getting paid off, a business being giving to you, this actually just happened to a friend of mine, someone just gave him their business that makes 50k a year!
Our praise leader being healed after a sickness in his throat. Someone who has stage 4 cancer and goes back to the doctor and its gone. I am the perfect example, getting a mortgage when I had no business to, getting a home for 40,000 less then every home on the market…come on now…these were all God stories.

It doesn’t make sense, how are you going to do this? How did that happen? You are dumbfounded, there is no answer, you can’t explain it, it is like a miracle.

When you hear something, listen! Don’t doubt, don’t question, see this is our problem, we are trying to process this through a human mind. This my friends is God..

We ask how can he cure the blind? Feed thousands with 3 fish and 2 loafs of bread? Turn water into wine? Defeat thousands with only hundreds?

He is God, he can and will do anything, nothing is impossible and the only thing he asks from you is that you believe….

Fear says your not going to make, it is based on the facts, it tells you don’t believe in what God says.

It pounds in your head… your broke, you’ll never get anywhere, you are too old to find a mate, you will never make. Look at your parents and grandparents, you have no chance, why are you even trying.
It will tell you, look how long you’ve been serving God, where are your blessings? Your God is not answering you, give it up already!

Faith is when your refuse to believe in false evidence, God told you, I can move moutains, I can produce results in your life, even if you suffer, even in your loss, you will recover it all in the end, just believe.

Believe that sooner or later it will be your season, that you will get it all back, trust God because he is able! You don’t have to see it to believe it, that is faith and that is how you defeat fear in your life.

So today my friends, take a stand against fear, stop being paralyzed by fear, stop listening to those voices in your head and start listening to voice in your heart that says have faith, believe that all things are possible, that I can do anything because I am the child of the most high God! You got this, I believe in you, you can do this let go of fear and grab on to faith!

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Not all men are dogs

Not all men are dogs

Okay, really we as women need to stop this, not all men are dogs. Yes, we have had our share of doggie men, men who lied, cheated, ghosted us, who said they wanted a relationship but clearly didn’t. Men who treated you like a booty call, who made you feel like you weren’t enough, didn’t text you or treated you like an afterthought but by no means is that all men.

I tell my girlfriends all the time, don’t lump all men into the suckie men category. I know good men. Hell, I was raised by good men, both my real father and step father were the best men you could meet. My “Big daddy” Sam, a close family friend was an amazing man who was in my life since I was 5.

I have incredible male friends who are great fathers, who are loving and faithful, who are also wondering where are all the good women.

I have guy friends I can call day or night and say “Hey I need you” and they would be there for me. Men who are good sons, who help out their family, who will drop everything when your tire is flat or you need a helping hand. Men who never miss a dance recital, a school event or time with their children.
I have ex’s who are still in my life, hell one even gave my daughter a car! My ex fiance even invited me to his wedding. They are great guys, who for one reason or another it didn’t work out between us, that doesn’t diminish the fact that they are good men.

There are plenty of men who are shitted on by their ex’s, when the women try to use their children against them, when all they want to do is the right thing.

I know Godly men, men who are committed to finding a good women, men who are hard working, who have aspirations and dreams and are willing to work together to achieve them. Men that cook, clean and are thoughtful, these are the diamonds in the rough.

Yes, I know there are good men, I refuse to lump them together with the losers I had picked (See the past tense had picked, not anymore!)
It’s like condemning all the Muslims for a act that a few did…it makes no sense.

I also will not close my heart off, like so many of my girlfriends because I’ve been hurt, I want a relationship with a good man, hell I deserve one after all the frogs I’ve kissed.

So I will continue to try to weed out the bad ones to find that someone special and until I do I will be the cheerleader for the good men that are out there, looking for us…the good women, because not all men are dogs.

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Why are you so negative?

Why are you so negative

I remember when I was working at this job, we had a women who would come in and every time we would see her she never had a nice thing to say.

She was forever negative,
“Beautiful day out today huh?” We would say and her response would be
“Whats so beautiful about it? There’s too much pollen in the air, my allergies are acting up, I had to turn my heat on and now there was something wrong with it! Of course, yet another thing that will cost me money. Just like my car, that mechanic cost me so much money, they are such thieves always ripping you off….”

And on and on and on…
at this point we had already tuned her out and were sorry we even asked the question.
Now I know your all laughing because you too know someone like this, don’t you?

Yes, there are so many negative people out there. They can’t seem to find one nice thing to say, I know that personally as my grandmother who lived with us was just like this, day after day, after day I had to endure her negative attitude.

I use to pray “Please God don’t make me like her” and God answered my prayers, not only am I not negative like her but I probably am one of the most positive people you will meet! Thank you God!

I dont get what makes someone be so negative, your alive, there’s your first thing to be positive about. You woke up in a home, you slept in a bed, you had electric and hot water for your shower and your coffee, you have food and maybe even a car to get you to your job.You have a job… Wow isn’t that more than so many people around the world have?

And yet your still not happy, you still feel like you have something to complain about. Really? How about you walked to the bathroom, you have both legs that work, you weren’t dragging an IV behind you or better yet having to use a bed pan.

You heard the alarm, you opened your eyes and saw the sunrise, you had vocal cords to yell at your dog. Does none of this deserve a blessing or at least some sort of praise?

How many people in this world that are sick and dying, who would trade places with you in a heart beat? Yet your still complaining about stupid stuff!

I don’t have time for negative people anymore,
I have a limited time here on earth and I want to enjoy every second, I want to surround myself with people who appreciate it as much as I do. So if I avoid you, defreind you or stop taking your calls its because I have no time for your stupidity. You are so blessed and you don’t even know it and as many times as I’ve tried to tell you, you still don’t get it and I am really sorry for you.

You are missing out on so many wonderful things, because you are too busy complaining. I live my life being grateful and feeling blessed each and every day, I live in the moment, I chose this, it is a choice! My choice.

See I saw first hand what being negative did to a person, how it made you angry and bitter, never happy about anything, how no one wanted to be around that and I chose not to be like that. I see my ex holding on to hatred, being petty, angry and bitter, something he clearly inherited from his mother.
I feel sorry for him, for this is his own karma, he is inflicting on himself.
I chose to live my life in a state of gratefulness, I chose to be happy, to feel blessed, to give thanks each and every day.

So today my friends, remember you can chose to be positive or you can chose to be negative it’s your choice, but remember to chose wisely as your decisions affect everyone around you.

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Inspiring others

Inspiring other’s

Recently I got a new follower on Instagram and she messaged me to tell me she stumbled across my page and that she had to reach out and tell me how inspiring she thought I was.

I was humbled to say the least, everytime someone reaches out to me, I feel the same way. I am blessed that people actually take their time to read my blogs, watch my videos or follow me on social media.
I am especially shocked when so many men tell me that, as I originally started this blog to empower women. I guess raw truth is universal and touches everyone, either way I am truly grateful for all my readers and followers.

She asked why and how I do what I do, I wrote back to tell her I know what it means for someone to reach out, as someone did to me when I was at my lowest point and how that littrrally changed my life as I was planning to kill myself that night.

I know what a kind word, or how proud I am of you, can do this. Saying to a person, never give up, you can make it…can mean to them. You might think it’s small and nothing but to someone who maybe was put down all the time, someone who is on the edge, you never know how that may change their outlook, their day or their life.

I know I didn’t go through all the shit I went through for no reason, no…it was for this testimony, it was so I can pass this on to others, this is my purpose.

So yes, I will keep uplifting other women, I will constantly tell them how proud I am of them, how beautiful they are, how smart they are and that they are my hero’s because we all need to do this, we all need to build each other up, not tear each other down.

I can’t stand nor do I watch any of these reality shows where the “women”
(which I say lightly because real women don’t do this, only little girls that have never grown up) beat each other down, call each other names, cut each other with horrible words and actions. No, I no time for such nonsense, this is not what I want to teach the next generation to think, that it is okay…its Not! And it will never be!!

That is what is wrong in today’s society, everyone thinks they are better than someone else, we all bleed red when did we forget that?
When did we forget compassion, tolerance and love? We need to show each other, show strangers that we are all one and when one falls, we all fall.
When one succeeds, we all succeed.

We need to live on the pay it forward notion, we pay one act of kindness forward, then they pass it forward and so on and so on…just like that old shampoo commerical (Okay that was going wayyyy back!
Millennium’s just YouTube it)

So today my friends remember, it only takes one act of kindness, one word of encouragement, one smile to change a person’s life. Be that change, be that motivation, be an inspiration, inspire other’s and as I always say at the end of every blog….

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Clearing out my space

 

Clearing out my space

The other night as I was speaking to a friend, she prophesied over my life. She told me God had big things in store but I had to do some work before this could happen.

I already knew this, I knew he put in my spirit to start these videos, he wanted me to close these dead end doors for good, to know my self worth, to be able to walk the walk and talk the talk to my readers and not just do, “the do as I say, not as I do routine”

I decided to clear out my home as well, I smugged and anointed my home and I prayed for clarity and peace in my life. I gave thanks for the lessons I have learned, even the ones that hurt the most as they all make us grow into better people.

But I can tell you afterwards, temptation came out and after me.
The man I fell hard for came back at me…but I kept getting all of these signs, memes like “keep the door closed, walk away”
I kept hearing songs on the radio, about not going back, friends suddenly calling and speaking on this topic, it was wild.

Eventually the signs overwhelmed me and I came to my senses to leave it where it needs to be…in the past.
This is not what God has for me, I am waiting for one that values me and love me unconditionally. I need not to convince a man of my worth, take crunbs or be an afterthought.

I have other things I must focus on, lessons I must learn so I can teach them to others.
I have this purpose and I know this as I keep getting signs for it as well.
So then why are we so hard headed? Why do we want what we want, when we want it?
Why do we chase things that are clearly no good for us? When so many friends and family keep telling us things we already know, yet we have that need to get burned one more time, why? Because the last 5 times didn’t hurt enough and it takes that 5th time to realize “Shit, that hurt”

No, I have big plans for my life, God has big plans for my life and I will no longer sell myself short, I will no longer let people who are not worthy take up space in my life. You need to know your worth, you need to know what benefits you and what is there to use you and hurt you.

You have intuition for a reason, use it, trust it, it will never lie to you. You need to believe what others that love you say about you, that your kind, that your a good man or woman, that your a ride or die chick.
That there aren’t many men like you out there, these are the qualities others see and love in you. So then why is it so hard for us to believe them and know them in ourselves?
These are the things we need to change, to walk away from in the beginning as soon as we see them, not to stay to try to convince the other person what we clearly are.

There is a season for everything and my season is coming, I know it, I believe it as sure as I am breathing. I will wait, I will listen, I will value myself enough not to discount myself for someone who is clearly not worthy of what I am offering, you also need to believe this, so we will go through this journey together.

I want to thank everyone who has reached out to me, especially since I’ve been doing my weekly videos. We are walking this path together, I will try to inspire you just as you inspire me to do better, we are not perfect but we are worthy.

So today my friends remember to clear out your space, mentally, physically and spiritually. You need to stand up tall, own your self worth and be able to tell others who don’t, it’s time to leave, that there is no room in your life for them, as you need the room for someone who will come and love and appreciate all you have to offer, start today by clearing out your space.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

***Now available***
My book The blessing in Disguise
Selling on my website:

Home

And on Amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_13?qid=1462358109&sr=1-13&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=the+blessing+in+Disguise

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The other night as I was speaking to a friend, she prophesied over my life. She told me God had big things in store but I had to do some work before this could happen.

I already knew this, I knew he put in my spirit to start these videos, he wanted me to close these dead end doors for good, to know my self worth, to be able to walk the walk and talk the talk to my readers and not just do, “the do as I say, not as I do routine”

I decided to clear out my home as well, I smugged and anointed my home and I prayed for clarity and peace in my life. I gave thanks for the lessons I have learned, even the ones that hurt the most as they all make us grow into better people.

But I can tell you afterwards, temptation came out and after me.
The man I fell hard for came back at me…but I kept getting all of these signs, memes like “keep the door closed, walk away”
I kept hearing songs on the radio, about not going back, friends suddenly calling and speaking on this topic, it was wild.

Eventually the signs overwhelmed me and I came to my senses to leave it where it needs to be…in the past.
This is not what God has for me, I am waiting for one that values me and love me unconditionally. I need not to convince a man of my worth, take crunbs or be an afterthought.

I have other things I must focus on, lessons I must learn so I can teach them to others.
I have this purpose and I know this as I keep getting signs for it as well.
So then why are we so hard headed? Why do we want what we want, when we want it?
Why do we chase things that are clearly no good for us? When so many friends and family keep telling us things we already know, yet we have that need to get burned one more time, why? Because the last 5 times didn’t hurt enough and it takes that 5th time to realize “Shit, that hurt”

No, I have big plans for my life, God has big plans for my life and I will no longer sell myself short, I will no longer let people who are not worthy take up space in my life. You need to know your worth, you need to know what benefits you and what is there to use you and hurt you.

You have intuition for a reason, use it, trust it, it will never lie to you. You need to believe what others that love you say about you, that your kind, that your a good man or woman, that your a ride or die chick.
That there aren’t many men like you out there, these are the qualities others see and love in you. So then why is it so hard for us to believe them and know them in ourselves?
These are the things we need to change, to walk away from in the beginning as soon as we see them, not to stay to try to convince the other person what we clearly are.

There is a season for everything and my season is coming, I know it, I believe it as sure as I am breathing. I will wait, I will listen, I will value myself enough not to discount myself for someone who is clearly not worthy of what I am offering, you also need to believe this, so we will go through this journey together.

I want to thank everyone who has reached out to me, especially since I’ve been doing my weekly videos. We are walking this path together, I will try to inspire you just as you inspire me to do better, we are not perfect but we are worthy.

So today my friends remember to clear out your space, mentally, physically and spiritually. You need to stand up tall, own your self worth and be able to tell others who don’t, it’s time to leave, that there is no room in your life for them, as you need the room for someone who will come and love and appreciate all you have to offer, start today by clearing out your space.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

***Now available***
My book The blessing in Disguise
Selling on my website:

Home

And on Amazon.com

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_13?qid=1462358109&sr=1-13&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&keywords=the+blessing+in+Disguise

http://www.am6azon.com/gp/aw/d/0692437398/ref=mp_s_a_1_12?qid=1434452632&sr=8-12&pi=AC_SX110_SY165_QL70&keywords=the+Blessing+in+Disguise

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