Consider your ways

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see url God repeats himself in the bible “Consider your ways” a few times because he wanted you to get this  message.

source link We are so busy trying to get things and yes, God wants us to prosper but we tend to put God out of our lives and out of our planning and it’s not until we fall into a ditch that we reach out to God.

God is sending a word to us, that we need not put God out but we need to consider our ways.
Some people say God doesn’t want you to be blessed or have material things or that you need to give everything you have back to him.
But that’s not what God wants for us, all he wants is for you to make sure you make him a priority, put him first.
To remember that while your in pursuit of your desires that you won’t forget to support his house as well.

Consider your ways…
How your thinking? How is it that your so busy with the consumption of things, that you don’t consult God first and then he doesn’t get any of it.

We all have different ways we view things, some people don’t care about family, but for some people, their families mean the world to them.
Some people live for the moment spend like there’s no tomorrow and some people think they have to manage what God gave them.
You need to do things that pleases God, you need to step back and look at the life your living.

Ask yourself, how are you living your life? How is your thoughts about money? Are you to prideful?
Your running out of time,
you need to clean up your act because you still have time to do his agenda.

If everything you do is about yourself, your not listening to God’s word.
Who does your help come from?
Most people act like you have arrived and you don’t need God, you don’t need to listen to him. Don’t think you can just take God’s stuff and walk away and not give back. It is he that gave you everything and he that can take it all back.

So many people do this, it is only after things don’t work out, then you come to him, you come when your mad, when things don’t manifest when you prayed. How come you want to know? Why God? You ask.
But you didn’t ask God about your relationships, your job, your finances did you? But then you get mad when things don’t work out, why? It wasn’t important enough to ask him his advice in the beginning but as soon as it’s not going your way you are fast to blame him.

When we have the wrong way of thinking it will take us off the track. The problem is we don’t know how to manage our blessings, whenever your desires become more important than God, then it will ruin you.
We need to remeber, don’t be jealous over others riches, don’t be envious of others, stay at your level, stay in your lane, God has things for you, especially for you.

So today my friends remember more than anything else put God’s work first and God will have his way with you but first you must consider your ways.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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You need to be happy with yourself first

You need to be happy with yourself first.

It’s amazing that so many people think outside things will make you happy or make you complete.

If I had more money…
If I had a better job
If I had a bigger house
If I lose weight
If I find the love of my life, that’s a big one for so many people.

Yes, most of us romantics desperately want someone to say the line from that movie “You complete me” like that will make all of your other problems go away.

Unfortunately I hate to be the one to bust your bubble, but it’s not. No one is going to complete you, no one will make you happy unless your truly happy with yourself first. You need to already be complete before you get into a relationship.

See the problem today is everyone wants a quick fix, no one wants to put in the work, no one wants to unpack, to see what was their issues of the last relationship and be willing to fix them before moving on the next one.

No, they grab their luggage full of crap and run right into the next one, same issues, new person. And then so many of them say “It’s them not me”
When they keep going from one to the next, to the next.

I talk a lot about my previous marriage and how it was verbally abusive but even though it was all of that, I still had to unpack, I still had to own what I did and believe me I was no angel.

Yes, I had to own that I lied, that I checked out the last 5 years, I had an emotional affair, I didn’t want to work on it anymore, I was done for years yet I didn’t have enough balls to leave.

I like the fancy lifestyle and was even willing to sacrifice my happiness to keep it. Yes, I had my issues but I knew I had to learn to be happy on my own, I had to admit my faults, I had to learn to fix them before I could move on.
I had to learn to forgive him…(Oh big one there!)
And let go before I could find happiness.

For 2 years I didn’t date anyone because I was fixing me. And even still, when I decided to try again I picked Mr. Con Artist ha!

Back to the drawing board, to learn about listening to my inner voice and to know my worth. Another year without dating made me learn to love myself, made me stronger, made me complete with me.

But even still I had issues I needed to resolve, even when I thought I did my work, I was made to realize that I still had more work to do. The last two relationships taught me that I am not done, not by a long shot, I must keep owning my own shit and change.

I am now happy being by myself. I made a life, I have my family and friends, I do things, I learned new things, I stepped out of my box more times than I could count to experience new things.

I know my self worth, I know what I want and what is a definite deal breaker for me. I know money doesn’t make you happy, neither does your job, your family, your man or women. I know how to be filled with peace and happiness on my own, by myself. I know there are still lessons I need to learn and that’s okay, I am a work in progress, as long as I am open to being better, it’s all good.

It is only when you get to this point that your ready to meet someone else. Ahhh…here’s the next problem, now you need to find someone who also did the work on themselves, who are whole otherwise they will suck the happiness right out of you, as they feel you need to make them happy.

If your a giver like me, you’ll do it because you want to please them…that is a slippery slope because sooner or later you will be giving your all to them and lose yourself, just like what happened in my marriage.

So today my friends remember, you must be complete, you must be whole, you must do the work to get there, it is only then, you will be truly happy. Because you need to be happy with yourself first.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Living my best life

Living my best life

This week my one of my girlfriends said to me.
“Girl, your living your best life”
I laughed and thought yes, I am!

We talked about that last night while she was at my house and doing the last video shoot for the documentary that I was blessed be part of, #Thisisseries
We spoke of how I am living life large, living my best life and how it was so amazing to her.

I told her it was because of where I came from, the hurt, the place of brokenness that made me so grateful and want to enjoy every second of this life I am living now.

Some people wallow in their past, it keeps them stuck, it holds a cloud over every other part of their lives. That is because they chose to do that, I chose to learn from my past and be grateful I am no longer there. I chose to be present in each and every moment, to leave the dishes in the sink and the list of things to do in order to participate in real life, my life.

I truly am grateful for my past because without it I wouldn’t fully appriciate my life now, I wouldn’t know what it takes to struggle and I wouldn’t know what real blessings look like.

I am fully engaged in my life now, I don’t know how much time I have here but whatever time it is I am going to enjoy every second of it. I am constanly stepping out of my box, pushing myself beyond my limits, trying new things, meeting new people and opening my mind up to explore.

I am willing to try pole dancing classes, Bachata and salsa dancing, Ariel yoga. I will drop everything for a friend from out of town or someone who wants to do something with me because these are the moments, the memories that will last forever, this is what life is about.

It’s not about a 9-5, with a list of things as long as your arm to do and stress over everything everyday. No, it’s about living your life to the fullest!

When you die will you say I wish I did more things on my list or will you say I wish I spent more time doing the things I loved with the people I loved?
No one regrets that they didn’t work more, everyone regrets that they didn’t spend more time living the life they had.

So today my friends remember, the dishes and lists will be there when I am dead and when your dead but life won’t, so I am committed to living my best life now.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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What is fear?

What is Fear?

What is fear?
Fear=
False
Evidence
Appearing
Real

Or it can be:
Forget everything and run
Or
Face everything and rise.

Fear is what you chose it to be, there’s that word again, chose, you chose to be stuck in fear and run or you chose to face it and rise.

Dr. Smily Blanton said fear is the most desperate of all human diseases.
It kills dreams, it kills hopes, it makes you sick, it ages you and it holds you back, so then what is the benefit of fear?

It’s a good crutch for some, a good excuse for not doing something, I can’t…I’m afraid, it’s too scary.

Fear has another benefit, it strengthens your muscles, it makes you face what you fear, if you chose to, it will make you stronger. You know the saying what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger, it’s true.

I remember being stuck in fear, always saying I can’t take care of myself. What if I can’t pay the rent? What if I can’t take care of my girls? What if I never find another man? So many what if’s that I was literally stuck in this horrible marriage. I couldn’t move, I couldn’t do anything because fear ruled my life.

I remember being a white knuckle flyer, I was scared to death of flying, I would go into a panic as soon as we took off. I held on to the seat like my life depended on it and to me it did.

I loved to travel but this was holding me back so after years I decided to change it, I decided to cure my fear.
I had to overcome it and so I jumped out of a plane.
Hey, if your going to do it, do it big!

Yes, I jumped out of a plane, and yes, I thought I was going to die, because not only was it a plane but it was a 1950’s old, beat up crop duster plane no less, oh, I thought I would shit in my pants for sure!

But I overcame the fear by facing it head on and guess what? Not only did I live, not only did I conquer my fears, I didnt shit in my pants either!

Yes, I overcame what I feared most, when I finally left my marriage, I remembered thinking…
I jumped out of a plane, I’ve been through so many losses, a rape, an abortion, drug and alcohol addiction, 2 suicide attempts, Hello! I can survive anything!

Think about all you’ve been through in your lives, things at the time you never thought you would get through, yet you did. You got past fear, you got past the hardest times because you didn’t give up. That’s the secret, didn’t think it was so easy did you?

Yes, you have gotten through things before and if you keep living, life will definitely throw some more shit at you, I guarantee that.
But the good news is that you will overcome that as well, as long as you let go of fear.

So today my friends, remember it’s up to you, it’s your choice to stay stuck, to be afraid, to forget everything and run or to face everything and rise, you get to decide what fear is.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Being obedient

Being obedient

I am big on lessons and signs from above, even though sometimes I am hard headed and it takes me longer to listen, eventually I get there.

Recently this message was more than evident to me as I kept seeing it over and over. I had been seeing someone for the last year, I knew it wasn’t right, I knew this was not going where I wanted it to go. I knew this wasn’t what God had for me but I wasn’t ready to let go.

I kept getting sign after sign that confirmed that but I wasn’t ready, I thought I could keep doing things my way. I kept making excuses, maybe it wasn’t really the sign, maybe things will change, maybe I could keep having fun until what I really wanted came along.

When I kept getting sign after sign, when each talk was just like the last talk, when things never changed, I realized this was not going where I wanted or needed it to.These were definitely the signs I needed to hear and listen to.

The signs kept saying he’s blocking you from your blessings, no-one else will come into your space, this is not for you, let it go.
I couldn’t let it go, I had feelings, I told this man my hopes and dreams, I invested a year into this, we had amazing chemistry, amazing… how could I walk away? So I prayed to God to let this go, if this wasn’t for me close the door, take these feelings away that I couldn’t do myself and let me move on to what was suppose to be mine.

Every day for weeks I prayed, yet everytime he called I caved, I was drawn to him like a moth to a light, so I prayed more for him to give me strength. When I finally said enough is enough, I stopped calling him and funny enough he stopped calling me. He was always a tit for tat kind of person so I figured that’s why. Then after 10 days he deleted me from social media and I was mad, my cousin said “You should call him ask him why? What the hell”

But I said “No, I prayed to God to close the door, he closed it the way he saw fit, I cannot go banging on that door to open it, I have to let it go and move on like I prayed for, no matter what the reason is I don’t need to know”

Well being obedient says alot because a week later, I got another full time client, I got into a master’s program for public speaking for close to nothing, I got a job ghost writing a business blog and a ex friend who borrowed money from me and then stopped talking to me for a year called me up out of the blue to pay me back the money, exactly what I needed to pay my taxes this year.
Don’t tell me God can’t or won’t do it, if your obedient.

The other night I was asked out on a date, I was debating on going but I had alot of work to do for this masters class, I prayed and during a break I went on social media and the first thing I saw was this meme that said “Focus on you, focus on what you want to make yourself better, eventually everything else in your love life will come to pass better than you ever could dream of”

Ha! Now that was a sign and so I was obedient yet again, I stayed home and worked. This is going to be my breakthrough year, a year of restoration just like my Bishop said it will be.
I am believing God for amazing things, for a change that will blow my mind but only if I am obedient, if I trust him, if I learn my lessons, if I ask him first and then listen.

This is yet another lesson I needed to learn to move on to the next stage of my life, to know I am worthy of more, to not settle, to listen, to watch for the signs and to be obedient.

So today my friends remember you need to listen, to see the signs, to pray for guidance and then not be as hard headed like me and be obedient.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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How do you exercise every day?

How do you exercise every day?

I get this question alot, especially when I say I get up every morning at 5 am to go to the gym, 5 days a week. How do you do It? I can’t do that, I like my sleep, it’s too hard, who wants to get up that early, yes, I’ve heard all the excuses.

Here’s the thing I hate getting up at 5 am, I hate that I feel like an 80 year old at 10 pm because my eyes are rolling in my head and I need sleep. My body hurts, I’m tired, the bed is so warm… yes, I have all these excuses too but I make my head overrule my body, I drag my ass out of bed and I make myself go.

I know how good I am going to feel afterwards, how strong I feel, how I have more energy throughout the day, how I look and feel in my clothes and about myself when I am focused.

I know the benefits of a healthy life, I come from a family who most don’t  make it 60 years old, that most have heart conditions yet are still overweight, still smoke, still eat like crap, I decided I am not going out that way. I chose to do this every day.

Wow… there’s that word of the week again…choice.
I chose this lifestyle, I chose to eat shit that’s tasteless, to exercise till every muscle hurts, to go beyond my limits and yes, to get up at the ungodly hour of 5 am every day.

For me I chose to live longer, to be healthy so I can be that grandma at 80 doing triathlons and looking like she’s 60. I want to enjoy all of my life, I want to skydive with my girls, zip line, pole dance, do Ariel yoga, I want to hike 20 miles up a mountain until my calfs are screaming to be able to see a view that’s breathtaking at the top. I do this with my girls now and one day I will doing this with my grandkids as well.

I bike ride on the beach, I walk and run there to clear my head and be one with God and nature. I am up for any adventure because I take care of myself, because I choose to do this.

Don’t whine that you’ve gained weight, that you can’t get up at 5 am, that you have no energy and then say to me it must be nice you are so skinny.
No.. its not nice, it’s alot of frigging hard work, sacrifice and commitment, this doesn’t come easy because if it did you would be doing it too.

Sorry lets be real, the only thing I can be, it’s not easy but anything worth having isn’t easy otherwise we would all be in the Olympics, we would all be millionaires, we would all be living our dreams, it takes hard, hard work and that’s the difference, I am willing to put in the work.

People ask me all the time how do I do all I do. I am up at 5 am to 7:30 at the gym, I write this blog 5 days a week on the treadmill, I’m a single mom, I own a business and work 2 other jobs, I am finishing my second book, I just took up Bachata, salsa dancing and pole dancing classes and next week I am starting a master’s class on public speaking. I just do it, I don’t watch Tv, I don’t lay on the couch after work, I am focused on what I want.

I wish I was this focused during the years I was misrable and married but I am making up for it now. I have an amazing life because I chose to have one, I manifested this whole life and I love It!
But believe me it’s not easy, nothing worth having is.

So today my friends remember I am not special, we are the same, the only difference is I chose to push myself, I chose to be the best I can be, that is how come I exercise every day.

It’s your life chose wisely…

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Change is scary

Change is scary

This week I’ve talked about change and I have talked about choices, unexpected life changes that, ready or not happen in our life and we chose how we react to them.

We can either embrace the changes or we can shut off our hearts because we are afraid and keep going down the path we were on, making sure we don’t get hurt.

Yes, change is scary and fear often keeps us stuck in one place. We rather stay in a horrible situation than step out in the unknown which to us seems that much more scarier in our minds because we don’t know what’s out there.

But what if you never took a chance? What if fear kept you stuck, what would you have missed out on?
I for one can tell you I wouldn’t have had my own business, I stepped out on faith, just getting divorced to start a business from scratch. I didn’t know how I was going to pay my bills, how I was going to get clients, I wasn’t getting alimony and the measly child support barely put food on our table. How was I going to do this?

If I let fear rule me I would be in some stuffy office working for peanuts and hating it but I decided that since I was shaking up my whole life as it was, why not step out and do what I was passionate about. To take that chance and look six years later I have a great business I love, lots of clients and I have been able to take care of my girls and I.

But for me changes from the heart are even more scary, because I have a bad picker, I have chosen men who can’t or won’t step up. I have the need to please so bad that I give away my voice, my power and lose myself to another person.

So in this area of my life as with alot of us women out there and I imagine some men as well, this is the scariest part, to let go and let love in.

But life without love….well that’s not a life at all. We all need love, we are built to give love and receive love. It is like the air we breathe, it is necessary to live.

If you don’t step out and take a chance, what are you missing out on? What amazing things and people will you have missed? If you don’t take a chance, you will never know.

So today my friends, I leave you with this… remember that opportunities are lost in a blink of an eye, but regret can last a lifetime and I for one don’t ever want to regret anything in my life. I am in control of my life, I get to choose the outcome, I know change is scary but living a life full of what if’s is scarier.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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The reason I am so positive

What makes me so positive?

Recently someone asked me this question and I had to laugh because it’s probably the most asked question I get asked.
It all starts with a mind set, growing up my grandmother lived with us, she was the most miserable, negative person you will ever meet. Nothing could make her happy and she was like this until the day she died.

Yes, she had a hard life and it didn’t turn out the way she thought it should, like most of us but she made everyone’s else’s life miserable as well because of it. I decided early on I was never going to be like her, I swore I wasn’t going to be mean and hate life like she did.

So even though I had just as bad of a life or probably worst, I still decided that I wasn’t going to let it effect my outlook on life.
Not to say it wasn’t hard at times, it was excruciating some days but I made myself be grateful for something, just waking up, waking up in a home, food to eat, later on for my girls, something, anything to focus on the good.

I chose to exercise every day, that changes who I am, it makes me feel stronger, it gives me energy and a clear head to be able to get through things.

I go to conferences, Dr.Wayne Dyer, Louise Hayes, Tony Robbins. I read motivational books and every morning on the way to the gym I watch inspirational videos, I listen to songs that give me a message.
I am constantly putting myself in that state of positivity, of gratefulness, of love, peace and joy.

I have a “sick faith” like my Bishop taught me, I found a church and a church family that keeps me going through the storms and grateful during the good times.

I have a belief that things will get better, I always think of the hard times and how I got through them and it gives me the courage to know I am a fighter and to know that I will get knocked down again but I will keep fighting and keep getting back up.

It’s a state of mind, it’s something you get to chose every day, yes I could have easily said “Look at my life, look at all I’ve been through, my mom’s cancer, my dad dying at 45, being raped, having to have an abortion and a suicide attempt all in the span of 6 months at the age of 15”

Yes, I had every right to be mad at the world when I lost 3 of my best friends, when my mom died, when I was in the depths of drug and alcohol addiction, when I was stuck in a verbally abuisve marriage for 24 years.

I should have gotten a hall pass on hatred and negativity, hell I earned that but I didn’t. I chose, there’s that word again, I chose to be positive, to look for that tiny silver lining.

Another thing I do is laugh at myself, I admit to being wrong, I am open to learn the lessons and actually look for the lessons in everything because I want to keep growing, keep changing. I am open, I step out of my box, I jump off that cliff even if it scares the hell out of me, I do it.
These are all simple, little tricks that can work for anyone.

So today my friends remember I am no different then you, yes, life pisses me off some days, I am not happy all the time, I get my pity party days, I cry…alot and yes, I even sometimes ask “Why me, God?”
But I don’t stay in that state, I have my pity party, I cry, I curse and the next day I put on my big girl panties and get with being positive again.

I am just like you, the only difdeence is I chose to get past that, I chose to focus on the good, I chose to do something about it and not bitch and moan about the bad. I chose to believe it will get better, to look at all the blessings I have and not all I’ve been through and say it always happens to me, this will never change.
I chose to praise even through the storms, not curse at the universe, I chose all of this and this my friend’s is what makes me and keeps me so positive.
This is your life, live it large, chose wisely.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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You give up what you need, what what you think you want

What we give up for what we think we want

The Dalai Lama said “We sacrifice our health in order to make wealth, we sacrifice our wealth to get back our health”

We are so anxious of what will happen in the future that we don’t enjoy the present, the result being, we don’t live in the present or the future, we end up living feeling like we are never going to die and die having never truly lived.

We think we want money and when we kill ourselves to get it, we realize it doesn’t make us happy.
We think when…
When I lose weight…
When I get that dream job…
When I find a mate…
When I get that bigger house, nicer car….
When….
But when, when comes we are still not happy, still not fulfilled because we need to be happy in ourselves, in where we are now, right now, with whatever you have. I’ve seen the happiest people that have nothing and the richest without happiness, it all begins and ends with you.

Some people let fear stop them, the what if’s, the I can’ts, I raise my hand to this one, I let fear rule my life for 28 years, I was stuck because fear owned me.
But let me tell you something, the pain of regret far outweighs the pain of the risk.

What if Oprah believed all her haters? What if Steve Jobs had gotten a real job when they laughed at his ideas? What if the Rock didn’t overcome depression and go on to be a movie star? What if Ellen caved into all the bullies in her life? The people with the hardest past are the ones that took the greatest risk and got the greatest rewards.
You can not do that stuck in fear.

Lisa Nichols said you have to step out to that ledge, your brain will tell you don’t, what if? You see everyone else is living the life you want yet you are stuck on the edge. There are three things that can happen if you jump, you will land on something soft, you will crash land or you will fly beyond your imagination, either way you will get back up.
You will never know what the outcome will be if you stay stuck, even if you fail, there will be a lesson on how to do it better the next time. Edison failed 1,000 times before he got it right with the light bulb.When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
How many of us would be willing to fail that many times?
He had passion, this was his purpose and he believed in himself even when everyone else didn’t.

What if we all followed our passion? Would we be better people? Better lovers? Better parents?
What if we all fulfilled the purpose that is put inside of us and not just go to a 9 to 5 job, hating our lifes, working for someone else who will replace us in a hot minute once we die? Why do we not give time to the ones that took us so long to find? Why do we not give time to our children who are desperately wanting our time? Why don’t we give time to our dreams, our purpose?

No, we are too busy running after the almighty dollar, keeping up with the Jones’s, trying to impress others with things and status and likes on social media, thinking this will make us happy.

So today my friends remember, this is your life, you get to fly, to chose happiness, to own your purpose.
We give up what we need for chasing a dream of what we think we want. Chose your life wisely, you only get one shot.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Your not by yourself

Your not by yourself

Yesterday I went to support my girlfriend, an amazing young women who created this documentary I am blessed to be in, while she was getting interviewed by our camera man/Pastor.

I went to his “church” a room in the African American center in Miami, but let me tell you, it didn’t matter how small his congregation was, it was how big his heart is and how passionate he is about God and this project.

Trinka spoke from her heart, about the abuse she suffered throughout her life, she was real and raw and brought us all to tears. This was the reason she wanted to make this documentary, she wanted to shine the light on this ugly, dark subject, she wanted others to speak up, to have a voice.

After the interview Pastor Leroy asked if anyone wanted him to pray for them, if they were dealing or had dealt with this. From this small group of like 20 people, 3 women stepped forward, even I was surprised.

He prayed over them, he held them, we cried with them and they let go of their past hurts and prayed to be whole again.

See we all think we are the only one’s carrying all the trauma in our past, we all think we are all alone, but this showed me that we all can related if we shine light, if we tell our truth.

Afterwards one young girl came over and said she had never spoken her truth before but because of Trinka and the rest of us she felt like she wasn’t alone. She wanted to get help, to let this go, to become whole again and she thanked us. We held her, we told her we know what she is going through, we told her this is why we have all come forward to help others heal.

This gave us confirmation that we needed to do this, to take our message around the country, around the world, to show others they are not alone. To show others how we healed, how we went from victims to victorious, how we overcame this and how far we have come.

For us our salvation was God and our faith, for others it may be whatever their higher power is, but whatever it may be we are here to support you, to be there and let you know you are not alone.

This is my purpose as I know it is for Trinka and Pastor Leroy as well. God placed this in our hearts to reach out, to touch others, to tell our stories. I am blessed to be part of this and be able to give, no matter how small, some peace to someone out there that thought they were alone, that they couldn’t talk about it, that it was burning a hole in their souls that they were filling with self hatred, depression, men, drugs and alcohol or anything else to try to cover up the pain they were feeling.

We want this to open up discussions in schools, in churches and at home, we need to talk about this.

So today my friends I am here humbled and filled with gratitude to be part of this, to be able to touch others with our story and my words. To be part of this group of amazing and brave people who have came forward to do the same thing.

Please share our videos, like our social media pages @thisisseries

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Turn into our Facebook live interview with all the survivors on April 29th @6 pm

Unless we share, unless we speak our truth, this will still go on, this will still be kept underground, we need to be the light, we need to know we are not alone, you need to know your not alone, your not by yourself.

“Be the change you want to see”

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