Doing what you think you couldnt do

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http://misterbagelscarborough.com/wp-login.php I love this because so many of us can relate. We have all thought, we can’t do this, this is too hard, I’m not good enough or smart enough. It felt like it would  never end, the pain was too much, the addiction too strong. We thought it might kill us or that we didn’t have the strenght to take one more step or wake up one more day.

source link There were so many times in my life that I didnt think I could do it, that I wanted to give up. I lost so many loved ones, I wanted to die with them. When I was in the depths of addiction, I never thought I would come out of it. When I walked away from my high school sweetheart I thought I would never love again. When I was in a 24 year verbally abusive marriage and I hated my life.
I thought I could never leave and take care of myself.

When my dad, my best friend and my mom all died within 3 years of each other. When my marriage was failing and I fell back into what I knew best, my addiction and I wanted to end my life.
I had hit rock bottom, I didn’t think I had it in me to rise again, for the second time from the bottom.

When I finally found God and the strenght to leave, I met a man from my past who promised me the moon and then turned out to be a con artist. Breaking all my trust in men, I thought I would never trust again.

When I knew I couldn’t swim and I hated running and thought, I could never do a triathlon. I did it and even placed 3rd in my age group.

When I thought I never wanted to love again, I fell in love with the wrong man yet again. When I cried every night, when my heart felt like it was actually breaking into pieces. I never thought I would be whole again.
I did become whole and I am still willing to try to love again, even knowing the pain it could cause.

See when your in that moment, when the pain is too much, when you’ve been hurt over and over. When you’ve been lied to, cheated on and broken, you can’t see it.

But you did it, you got past it, you defeated it. You got over the pain, you stopped crying every night, you started laughing once again.

You got back up after being knocked down, you overcame prejudiced and hate. You overcame your addictions and demons. You crawled your way up from the bottom, you did it! You did it!
Even when you didn’t think you could. So give yourself some credit, pat yourself on the back.

Life may have knocked you down but you still overcame. Was it easy? Oh hell No! It was hard as hell and you wanted to quit, but you hung on. You got past it and look at where you are now, look at how much smarter you are, how much stronger you are because of it.

So today my friends remember, yes life is hard sometimes, you will cry, you will want to quit. You might think you can’t do it but just look back once in a while and see what you did, what you thought you couldn’t do.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Understanding women

Understanding women

I laugh when I hear men say they don’t understand women, I think, then you don’t listen. Women aren’t hard to understand, yes we are wired differently but basically we come from man’s rib, we want and need the same things men do.
So here are the 10 easy steps to understand us:

1. Don’t lie to us
This is universal, no one wants to be lied to, period. Be honest, if you don’t want a relationship say so, if you just want to hook up say that. Be real and that would solve so many problems.

2. Be loyal

Oh, this is a big one you men can’t seem to get. If you can’t keep your dick in your pants don’t start a relationship, be a player and be upfront about it. We will respect you more than dragging our hearts through the mud because you can’t control your dick.

3. Listen

Another big one here, all you have to do is listen, we talk…alot. So just listen we will tell you what we want, how we’ve been hurt, what our hopes and dreams are, what we are looking for, its a frigging road map to our hearts, just listen and follow it.

3. Be romantic

This goes along with listening, most women grew up with the Prince charming fantasy. They want flowers, a love note, you doing the dishes or making breakfast. The little things that tell her you love her, you care, it doesn’t have to even cost anything, just your time and energy.

4. Compliment us

Tell us we are beautiful, that your proud of us, that you believe in our dreams. Grab our ass’s, hold our hands, hold us when we cry and tell us it will be okay. Let us know how much you love us, pretty simple.

5. Just be there

You don’t have to solve all our problems, you don’t need to know all the answers, we don’t expect that from you, just be there for us. Let us know we can vent to you and know that sometimes we are not looking for you to solve anything, we just like to talk our shit out to come to our own decisions.

6. Make us laugh

To me funny is the new sexy, if you can make me laugh that will go along way. It will make me feel better when I’m down, it will keep a smile on my face and it will also make disagreements end quicker if we are laughing, because you can’t be mad and happy at the same time.

7. You don’t always have to be the tough one

Yeah, this is hard for men, you all grew up thinking men don’t cry, you have to be a “man”
That’s bullshit, I want to know my man has emotions, that he has a heart, you don’t have to be the tough one all the time. We are suppose to be a partnership, let us help you, we want to, we need to feel needed, we will be there to listen, it’s okay to show us your emotions.

8. Talk to us

We are your ride or die bitch, we got your back, but you have to talk to us, tell us what’s going on in your heart and in your head. Don’t shut us out, don’t think we don’t understand or can’t handle it, we are built tough, we got you.

9. Don’t be controlling

Some woman like a little jealousy, not much just enough to tell them you are worried about losing us. I can do without either but what men or women don’t want is a crazy person controlling their every move. “Where you at? Who are you with? What time are you coming home? That shit doesn’t feel good to anyone, so leave it alone.

10. Be yourself

Be real, don’t try to impress us because sooner or later the real you will come out and then it will feel like you lied all along, not good.
Either we will like you or we won’t…the money, the fancy car or clothes will only work in the beginning, when we find out you have no substance, no heart or soul we will be gone. So just be you, they say there is a shoe for every foot, keep it real and you’ll find yours.

Bonus one #11
Don’t treat us like shit!!

Yes, think about how it would feel if it was done to you? How would you feel? Would it hurt you? If you even remotely thought yes, then don’t do it to us! Think before you do or say something that will hurt us, put yourself in that person’s shoes and think again.
And if you do hurt us say your sorry, we all screw up, just own your shit.

So today my friends, remember these 11 easy steps to women right here, we are not so hard to figure out and this list is universal, it can go for men as well. We all want these things, we are all the same, we want love, honesty, loyalty, to be listened to, complimented, to laugh, to be able to cry, to know someone has our back and to know if we give our love to someone that they won’t treat it like shit. Pretty basic stuff…
So here is your lesson, copy it, pass it on, give it to your buddies, tape it on your refidge, learn it, let it become your bible on women.
If you do these things, I promise you, you will never have a problem understanding women.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Dealing with your shit

Dealing with your shit

We all have shit, shit we’ve been through, shit we carry around from our past, shit that’s happening right now in our lives. Yes, this is a fact of life but how we deal with our shit is a different story and belive me, we all deal with it differently.

Some of us deal with it head on, we figure out what we need to do to get past it, fix it or own it. Some people chose not to deal with it, pretend it doesn’t exist, some people use it as a crutch, they become a victim and this is why they can’t move forward, they have excuses, they had alcoholic parents, they were beat, they were molested… insert your sob story here.

Yes, we all have shit but when you complain that you don’t want this or that to keep happening and yet your still entertaining the foolishness, then the problem is you.

I’ve cut out alot of people from my life these last 4 years since my divorce, because these people were not benefiting or giving anything to my life. They sucked the fun out of life, they were negative, they didn’t have my back like I had there’s, the relationship was not good for me. Whatever the reason, I needed to let go because their shit was holding me back or wearing me down and I don’t have time for other people’s shit, I have enough of my own to deal with.
So they had to go, as much it hurt, I did it because it would have hurt me more in the long run.

One thing I’ve learned is, it takes more than words to get over your crap, it takes action. You can’t say I’m okay after being raped and yet your still doing dangerous things that say your still crying out for help. You can’t just say I’m a addict, yes, that is the first step but there are 9 steps after that one that you must do to in order to stay clean.

You must walk the walk and talk the talk, you must say I have a problem and now I am going to work on what I need to work on to improve, to change, to resolve the things I need to do to become better, to beome whole again, to change.

Don’t come to me and say I don’t like this, I don’t want this to continue yet your still are entertaining the foolishness, your just bullshitting yourself, not me because I see it. If you truly wanted it to end, it would, you would put an end to it, period. No excuses, no bullshit, you would just walk away, that is the only way change will happen.

When you become sick and tired of being sick and tired, when enough is enough, when the games are too much and too many, when your life is spiraling out of control, it is then you will do something about it. Otherwise you are just giving lip action to it and that won’t change anything.

I worked at becoming whole after I was raped, I had counseling, I went for years because I still saw my dangerous behavior. I was using men, I had to be in control, I played games, I ran when things became closer, so I knew I still had work to do. I was still broken and like they say hurt people, hurt people and that’s what I was doing.

When I became clean after years of drug and alcohol addiction, I needed to work the steps, I needed to go to meetings, sometimes twice a day because I knew I wouldn’t stay clean without help. I didn’t just give it lip action, it took hard work, lots of hard work.

So today my friends remember, you need to take action, you need to change, you need to own it, to decide to cut off the foolishness before you can say your dealing with your shit.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Today is not about the Bbq

Today is not about the Bbq
Memorial day message

I interpret this normally scheduled Monday message to bring you a special Monday Treadmill Treats:

We seem to forget what this weekend is all about, it’s not about a three day weekend, it’s not about the start of beach season, it’s not about a back yard Bbq, it’s about remembering the brave men and women who fought for our country, these men and women who fought and gave their lives for our freedom.

I so miss my step father who was a World War 2 veteran, he was in the Air force. He was in the plane that dropped the bomb on Hiroshima and he was so proud of being a veteran. Every Memorial day he would put on his uniform right down to his hat and black shiny shoes and would march in the parade our town would have.

He would carry the flag as I sat on the curb with my mom watching all of these brave men and women march so proud, that even 50 years later they were still so proud to have served their country.

Some were out there in walkers, some in wheel chairs but they were there all the same. I am lucky to come from a family of service men, my father served in the Navy in the Korean War, all of my uncles served, as well as my cousins.

They are different bunch of men, they are proud, they love their country so much so that they were willing to die for it. Can you say that?

If they needed you to go today to fight for your county and other’s freedom would you go or would you make excuses?

There was no “let me think about” for these people, it was yes, absolutely I will go! And so many of them never came back.

So today while your enjoying the beach and your Bbq remember why your really off and what today its really about. It is to salute, to celebrate, to remember and to honor the many men and women who fought for us and lost their lives and it is to give thanks for the millions more who are still risking their lives each and every day for your freedom.

Thank you all for ensuring my freedom, words can never be enough!!

“Be the change you want to see”

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Get ready to get what you prayed for

Get ready to get what you prayed for

There’s a saying that says think about what you pray for, for it may come quicker than you think. But it might not be wrapped up in the exact box that you wanted to be.

Boy, is that ever true, see recently I had been seeing somebody for quite a long time, but it was not going where I wanted it to. I’m really looking for a serious committed relationship, I have been single for too long and I really want someone to share my life with, to build something with, something that would last a lifetime.

This was a good relationship but I knew it wasn’t going there and even though I saw plenty of signs, I kept ignoring them. I had all kinds of excuses for holding on, it was good, I was having fun, I’d wait till I meet the “right one”

Over and over I kept seeing the signs of what God wanted me to do, but I had my own plans. I kept thinking why isn’t my life going where I want it to go? Why aren’t I further along? I am doing the right things, I go to church, I give, I help others, I read the word, I am grateful, I give his name all the praise and honor, so what’s going on?

Yes, I was doing all of that but I wasn’t obedient. I wasn’t listening to what God was telling me, that I needed to walk away from this. No, human me thought I could have my cake and eat it too.

That’s not how this works as I soon realized. There finally became too many signs for me to ignore, they were everywhere, everyday and so I finally listened, but I knew I couldn’t do this on my own, so I prayed and I asked for God to end this.

And just like that, it was over, he gave me the strength to walk away.
Let me tell you, it hurt me to do this, this was not what I wanted, this was and still is hard as hell but this was me being obedient.

Funny, how when you pray for things, how fast they happen. We had already had this “where is this going talk” twice before this, so he knew what I wanted and needed when I walked away. So I just stopped calling him, I stopped texting him, God gave me the strenght to do this. But here’s the devil playing with you, he never called me, he stopped texting me and the human side of me was mad, like wtf? Why ain’t you calling me? I wanted to call and ask him, but didn’t I ask God to remove him? Why would I go knocking on a door God closed for me? It doesn’t matter why he didn’t call, I prayed, God answered, leave it at that.
It’s because we are human, we pray but we want it done it a nice neat box, the way we want it. That’s not how God works I learned, so I left it alone.

As soon as I listened, blessings started coming my way, I got into a master’s class for public speaking for an unbelievable deal, I got money that I never thought I would see again from an ex friend, doors started opening, as quick as that, all of this came to pass. I was obedient and God was doing his part to give me what I wanted, what I needed at this point in my life.

There were many nights that I wanted to call, that I missed him, that my heart hurt. One night in particular I couldn’t sleep thinking of him, I wanted to text him so bad and tell him I missed him but instead I decided to go online to keep my mind busy. A friend of mine was doing a Facebook live video and he said “God spoke to me and told me to do this video, I don’t know who’s going to be up this late to watch it but I’m being obedient and since I’ve been obedient God has open many doors for me” That was my sign, that video was for me, telling me exactly what God needed me to hear and so it gave me strength to do what the God wanted me to do.

This faith walk is not easy there, are things that you’re going to have to do, things you are going to have to give up and things that are going to make you uncomfortable. They are going to make you hurt but you’re going to have to do them if you want to grow spiritually. If you want to have all of God’s blessings, you need to be obedient.

The one thing I’ve learned out of all of this is I need to be obedient, I need to listen no matter what and believe me I’ve gotten plenty of signs since I’ve listened. Plenty of things telling me about obedience…a meme, a video, a friend speaking to me, all saying the same thing…obedience and so I know that is confirmation from God.
I know this is a journey for me and it will get hard, it will hurt and it will be uncomfortable but I must listen, I must be obedient if I am to get all of the blessings that God has for me, I must do something for him, I must listen.

So today my friends ask yourself why aren’t you where you should be in your faith walk, maybe it’s because you’re trying to do it your way, maybe it’s because you’re not being obedient, maybe it’s because your not praying for the help you need but remember when you pray for something be ready to get what you prayed for.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Imagination is the preview of life’s coming attractions

Imagination is the preview to lifes coming attractions

That is a quote from Albert Einstein and I love it because it’s so true.
Think about it, remember when in the dark ages when we use to talk on the phone with a cord attached to the wall? Well someone said imagine if I can take this phone outside or to the bathroom so I don’t miss that important call and have to run down the stairs with my pants around my ankles trying to get it in time. Okay, all of you of a certain age are laughing now because you remember doing just that.
Well someone imagined that and then made it a possibility, they made it a preview of life’s coming attractions.

What about when it took days or weeks to go somewhere by car, someone said imagine if you could fly there in days? And then the Wright brothers made a plane and we did just that.

Edison said imagine if we had a light bulb and we didn’t need oil lamps and after 990 times of trying, thank God he didn’t give up, we now all have light bulbs lighting up our homes.

Yes, what we imagine we can have, my favorite Steve Harvey quote is “You need to stop making your dreams the size of your paychecks”

Doesn’t matter that it seems impossible, hell don’t you think at some point Edison thought his dream was impossible but his imagination was bigger than his fear.

He imagined that it would work, he imagined that homes would have lamps with bulbs, I’ll bet he went to sleep dreaming about the end results.
We need to not worry about how the middle will work out, we just need to imagine what we want and we need to see the end result. The rest leave to God, the universe or whoever your higher power is, to take take care of the rest.

We just need to have the imagination to dream big. Yes, I dream big, I put it out there all the time, I look at it every day on my vision board, I go to sleep dreaming, imagining the life God has for me. Yes, in reality it seems too big of a dream at this age, but nothing is impossible if you believe. There is no doubt that one day I will be sitting in that chair at Oprah’s house in Hawaii on Super Soul Sunday or on a film set laughing with Tyler Perry about the scenes for the movie of my life.
Laugh…but remember that Jim Carey carried around a check he wrote to himself for a million dollars for years, he knew it was coming, he saw it, felt it, imagined it and it came to pass.
Steve Harvey while homeless dreamt of a piece of property that would be his own, he dreamt of being on TV, now he has 7 not 1 but 7 Tv shows and hundreds of acres of land.

Don’t you think people said to them, “Please that is never going to happen, give that fantasy up! It’s a pipe dream, your too old, too poor, too much of a dreamer” but they didn’t listen and neither should you. I sure the hell don’t listen to them, say what you want but when your sorry ass sees me on Oprah or on the red carpet with Tyler Perry you won’t be laughing then. Don’t worry about what others say, it’s your dream not theirs.

So today my friends, remember to imagine, to dream, to believe for big things, bigger than your paychecks, bigger than anyone you know, so big it seems impossible because I am telling you your imagination is the preview to lifes coming attractions!

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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What are you willing to leave behind to move forward?

What are you willing to leave behind to move forward?

Wow… it was great speech I heard last week at a leadership conference from Pastor Kion Henderson. It was as if he knew what I was going through and my friend Omar even said “Well isn’t that confirmation for you”

Yes, these last few weeks I’ve wrote about moving on, facing your fears and determination. I had to be obedient and let go of someone so that I will able to find what is truly for me.

It’s been a struggle as I didn’t want to, I wanted my cake and eat it too but I knew to move on, I had to let go and this was just the conformation I needed to hear once again.

I loved what else he had to say:
You got to lead while you bleed…
No matter how bad your hurting, you have to keep leading.

Intolence is the only way to grow…
You have to be sick and tired of being sick and tired to move on, to grow.

Your affection is your ammunition to change, to move on, to grow.
Your pain gives you purpose, to keep going.

See some of your losses are better than some of your gains. Sometimes you have to let go, let go of people holding you back, people that don’t believe in your dreams, people that aren’t going to the same places you want to go.
It may be relationships, like it was for me I wanted something he didn’t. I couldn’t wait around to see if he would change his mind, I know what I want and the one thing I learned is life is too short to waste time, so I had to move on.

I’ve lost friends who weren’t rowing my boat but were drilling holes while I was rowing. I don’t have time for fake friends, I have big plans either your with me or your gone. Sorry if that sounds harsh but again I wasted to much time trying to make people happy who will never be happy with themselves.

See these are lessons we all need to learn and then move on from and if you are a little slow like me and need the lesson a few times, it’s okay as long as you finally get it.

It doesn’t matter if no one believes in your dreams, if people laugh at you, people laughed at Colonel Sanders, said he was too old to start a business. What about Oprah, she was poor, black and a women, how could she ever end up being the richest women in the world?
What about Edison, when he failed 990 times before he got it right with the light bulb, how many people do you think laughed at him?
How many of you would even keep going after try number 10 or 20? How many would listen to the nay sayers? And quit?

No, you have to let them go, you know the big picture, even if no one else can see it, you see it. It’s up to you to listen to the signs, to ask for help, to keep learning, keep growing, to cut the dead weight off and keep persevering.

I am no smarter than anyone, I am just like you, I have had hardships, heartbreak, I had had friends backstab me, I’ve been knocked down, I have hit rock bottom not once but twice. The only difference is I refuse to give up, I refuse to let go of my dreams, I refuse to take shit anymore. I know what I want and where I am going and either you with me or get the hell out of my way, I don’t have time for you.

Get tough, stand tall, tell the haters, keep hating, speak up loud and proud
“I am still going to do me and you do you, doesn’t matter what you think or say”

So today my friends remember, you can do anything you set your mind to, listen for the messages, learn, grow and accept change. Take your sorrows, your disappointments, your heartbreak and turn them into fuel, to make you stronger, smarter and more determined to get there.
And then ask yourself how bad do you want this? And what are you willing to leave behind to move forward?

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Determination will get you there

Determination will get you there

Do you know in a race all runners run? But there can only be one winner.

This year I am determined to do all I have set out to do, I made a commitment to never miss my God moment. I will walk out on faith to challenges that I cannot see how it could possible happen, but yet believing that it will happen.

If you can’t imagine yourself winning, you won’t. If your not determined about finishing the race, you will give up, if you do not have the faith to believe, it will not happen.

I was talking with someone this week and I told them of a story of someone I knew who had stage 4 cancer. The doctors gave her 3 months to live but she had faith and hope and she told them she was determined  she was going to live. They must have thought she was nuts, stage 4, yeah right, you don’t live.

She believed in miracles, she never gave up, she willed herself better. Two months later when then ran more scans with one month left of the doctors death sentence, she was cured, yup, no cancer, all gone.

The doctors couldn’t believe it but she believed it, she believed in prayer and she was determined and look where it got her.

My friend asked if I was Tinker bell, yes, I am. I believe.
She said she didn’t believe in miracles, I told her then she would never receive one, you have to believe to receive…

Dont sit around day after day saying poor me, you don’t know what I’ve been through, I am not lucky, there is no way it can change.
Because with thoughts like that it won’t, your telling yourself you will never get better, become successful or change your circumstances, so you have no shot at change.

It all starts with you and your attitude.
Surrounded yourself with people who influence your life in a positive way. Here are 7 ways to start to change

1. Write a set of goals down:
Write a list, make a vision board, look at it, envision it.

2 Take action:
Do something to get it started, research it, talk to others, find a mentor.

3. Be flexible to make changes to your goals:
It’s okay it if doesn’t happen exactly like you see it, it can be way better than you thought.

4 Over look the distractions:
Focus on the prize.

5.Never quit:
No matter what, keep going.

6.Use life experience to your benefit:
Always ask what can I learn from this?

7. Don’t do it by yourself:
Know that there are others around your supporting your dream.

There are 3 things that will bring you down:

1. Negative thoughts:
I can never do this, this is so big and will never happen.

2. People’s attitude:
“You will never do that”
“Don’t you know who you are?”

3. Flashbacks of your past….
You know where you came from, your a loser, you can’t do it, see you tried before.

Forget all of that, know you can do anything you set your mind to.

So today my friends, you have to be determined to be determined.
Do not leave your destiny in the hands of people….
Do not trust people with your happiness
Change your thoughts,  change your life..because determination will get you there.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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The storms come at us all

The storms come at us all

No matter who you are poor, rich, educated, not educated, movie star or a man that walked on the moon, we all have storms in our lives.

Just because your rich or successful doesn’t exclude you from lives troubles.
The one I love most is when people think that when your Christian that all of a sudden all your problems will magically disappear and never return. Please, if that was the case everyone would be running to convert.

No, nothing not even believing will keep the storms out of your life, sorry to bust your bubble. We all have storms in our lives, that is just a fact of life.
What will, you ask? Determination, grit, an undeniable belief that you will get through life no matter what it throws at you.

Les Brown said “You hope you fall on your back so you can see the sky and know  how to get back up”
Life sucks sometimes for everyone, some of us get more crap thrown at us then others but that just makes us tougher, it makes us more determined to show up and show out.

You can’t quit, you can’t give up, believe me I know how hard it is when the storms are coming at you, when you feel like you can’t breathe, when you want to cry in a corner and throw in the towel and say I’m done, I can’t take it one more second. I have been there on more than one occasion, but I don’t give up, I cry, I scream, I ask God why? I feel sorry for myself and then I get up the next morning, I put my big girl panties on and I push through with fresh eyes, and with more conviction then I had before.

My thing is I have not come this far to let you knock me out, I put in too much sweat, blood and tears to let go of my dreams, even when you can’t see it, even when you think I’m too old, not educated enough, not pretty enough, whatever you think about me, that’s on you. I know I will make it that’s the difference between winners and losers, winners can see the finish line, they practiced it in their minds a thousand times, they can see it, feel it, touch it, way before it ever happens.

It has already become a reality for them and they know what it feels like, so they are going to keep going no matter what.

I have loved boxing since I was a kid, nothing shows you how to keep going more than boxing.
Two men in the top physical shape of their lives, come out and beat each other to a pulp. The other guy may get a black eye, his lip may be bleeding, his body is black and blue and he may have been knocked down, once, twice maybe but inside he saw himself winning. He saw the belt in his hands, he heard the crowds cheering, he knows what it tastes like and that keeps him going when everyone else gave up on him, his perseverance keeps him going beyond what’s humanly possible and he comes back to win the fight!

Yes, seeing it, holding on to your dreams even in the worst storms will get you through lifes troubles.
It’s your attitude, your will, your determination that will get you past it.

So today my friends remember we will always storms in our lives, it’s how we deal with them that will effect the outcome. Be brave, see the finish line, hold that belt in your hands, know what your outcome will be, your outcome, because the storms come at us all.

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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Celebrating mother’s across the world

Celebrating mother’s around the world

Yesterday we celebrated mother’s day, a day when  we actually stop and tell our mom’s how much we appriciate them.
If you read my blogs you know I’m not big on these days, when are are forced to have dinner with our family, Siblings day, Valentine’s day, Teacher’s appreciation day, why must we have a day?
I don’t believe in them because I believe we should always tell the people in our lives how we feel, not once a year but every day.

As soon as I got old enough to get a job I would bring my mom flowers. Not for her birthday, not for mother’s day just because it was Friday, just because they made her smile.
When I moved to Florida I had the greenhouse set up a weekly delivery so that every Friday she still got my flowers just because.

See I wanted to let her know what an amazing mom she was, how I knew how hard her life was, I knew she grew up dirt poor in Harlem, that she had to leave school in the 8th grade to support her family as my grandmother was sick.
I knew she was a waitress working the night shift for years dealing with drunks every night to put food on our table. I knew she owned one descent dress she wore for every occasion because any free money went to me or fixing up our broken down farm house.
I knew that after working her shift, dead tired, she would come home to help my step father fix the house as they didn’t have money to pay anyone to do these things.

I knew what it was like for her to bust her ass every day. I knew my grandmother who was the most misrable, negative person on earth and lived with us, would tell her it wasn’t good enough, she was never grateful for anything my mom did.

I knew how hard it was to go through breast cancer never telling anyone because you are afraid you will lose your job, holding it all together for everyone else. To have your best friend, the father of your child, die suddenly a month later. Only to find out your only child was raped a month after that and you had to take her to endure a horrible abortion.

The night she found my lifeless body on the bathroom floor when I tired to end it all. How she sat by my side all night, how she prayed and cried when I came to, knowing she almost lost me.

Yet never crying, never complaining, always having to be the strong one for everyone else in your life. To be a women in her fifties going back to school to get her GED and then to go college, all while everyone told her it was crazy. My mom never stopped, she never gave up, she had a determination, she was unstoppable.
She took care of my step father for years in the depths of Alzheimer’s, until I found out how bad it was and stepped in.

She was always there for a friend, she always welcomed everyone at our dinner table. Some nights it looked like the United nations at our table. Black, White, Jewish, Chinese, Spanish, old, young, gay, straight, transsexual or drag queen, they were all there.

She opened her home and her heart to everyone, she become friends with all of her clients when she went back to school yet again and got her real estate licence and opened up her own company at 60.

Yes, I had some big shoes to fill and I was always grateful for this women who always put me first, who put aside her anger towards my dad for cheating to put my best interests first. To always be there for me, for always being the best mom. See I didn’t need a special day to tell her how much I admired her, I was constanly buying her cards to let her know, writing her poems, buying her flowers every week. I wanted her to know now, every day she was alive how much I appreciated her.
Not to cry at her grave, saying I wish I would have done this or that…no, I wanted to make sure she knew this now.

I took care of my step dad until he died and I slept on the floor of the Icu for 12 days when she had a heart attack. It was because of what she put into it, into me is what she got out of it. See I wanted her to know what a amazing mom she was and how I never stopped telling her that all she did for me, all she gave up, all she sacrificed for me, that I was truly grateful for it all.

I was there telling her all of this until the very end, she knew how much I loved her. How grateful I was to have her for my mom, to know what an incredible women I thought she was.

So this mother’s day and every day for the last 6 year’s, I have missed her. But I know she knew that I didn’t need a day to tell her how great she was.

So today my friends remember, don’t wait for “a day” to tell someone good job, your great, I appriciate you or I love you… just because I wanted you to know. Be present in the moment with them, spend time with them, call them, send or bring flowers just because….just because…
They won’t be here forever…

Thank you mom…I miss you every day and I only pray I can be half the mom you were…
I know you are always with me every time I see that butterfly…until we meet again…

“Be the change you want to see”

“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”

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