I follow my heart when I date
Recently someone asked me what was my type was in dating. I said I no longer had a type and they were taken back and said everyone has a type.
He may have been right, at one time I did have a type. I liked tall, dark, good looking Italian men, maybe it was a daddy thing, minus the tall part.
But we all change and grow, we all liked things years ago that we may not like anymore. Look when I was a teenager if you were cute and had money to treat me for pizza you were it. Then it was if you we’re cute and had a car, in college it was if you were hot and popular and could get us into the club’s or good parties. After college I was looking for someone to settle down with, who would be a good supporter, a good father and husband. See the cute and hot part changed for responsible and hard working.
But now I’m good, I pay my own bills, I can take care of myself so my wants changed again.
Now it’s not about looks, (Okay, we all have thing’s we like, for me it’s eyes and lips) but that’s not the end all, be all in my decisions. It’s not about how much money you make, it’s not about what clubs we are going to, thank God I’m way over that, it’s about who you are in your soul.
To me it doesn’t matter what color you are, how tall you are, (as long as you are taller than me in heels, we are good)
It doesn’t matter how much money you make, I make my own, it’s about if your kind, if your funny, compassionate, if your a man of God, if your a family man. It’s about the important things that make you a decent human being.
Yes, I’ve dated black men, White men, Spainsh men, Jewish men, Catholic men, shorter men, tall men, young men and older men, see none of that matters to me anymore.
All that matters if you are a good man.
Wow, imagine if the whole world operated like this, we could get rid of racism. If we just judged a person on his or her heart, not on anything else.
That is how I live my life, I don’t see color, I dont see age. I’ve had a relationship with a man that was 20 years younger and we could talk about anything for hours on end. Age didn’t matter when your soul connects, when you have an undeniable attraction and you click.
These are things others have a problem with, others have issues with. Back in the day when my mom was growing up not only didn’t you date out of your race and your religion but also you never dated out of your own rationality.
My mother’s aunt married an Irish man and the family disowned her. My mom for 18 years never told me she was half Puerto Rican because when her first true love’s family found that out, they made him break off their engagement. She was so brokenhearted she changed her name and lied to me for 18 years about who she truly was. How sad is that?
Growing up I didn’t date black men, maybe that’s why I stuck with Italian Guido men because of my mom’s beliefs but when she passed away and I got divorced, I realized those were her issues and not mine. The first guy I dated when I got divorced was an amazing younger black attorney, who is still a great friend to this day.
Thank God we have come along way since those days but there are still some people out there who need to say something about differences in age or race or religion between couples.
Look the heart wants what the heart wants, the heart doesn’t see all of that nonsense, only small minded people do.
So today my friends remember this is your life, do you, follow your heart. Date who your heart wants, who your soul connects with, what differnce does it make, we all bleed red in the end. Do like I do in life and in dating and follow your heart, it will never steer you wrong.
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“And just when the caterpillar thought his life over…he turned into a beautiful butterfly”
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