Truly being thankful Thanksgiving Treadmill Treats Bring truly thankful As I wake up this morning to look outside to see the beautiful sunshine and next to me is my wonderful loyal,loving man (Mr. Mashmellow ) knowing my two girls are asleep in their rooms and this is a day of thanksgiving I can’t help but to be grateful for all my blessings.

I don’t need a “special ” day to give thanks for my blessings,to me every day God chooses to wake me up once again is a blessing enough and every morning when my eyes open and every night before I close my eyes, I give him the honor and the praise and I thank him for everything.

But today especially I am grateful because others stop and do this as well, it makes us stop our busy lives and truly take time out to be grateful for what we have.

This year I am especially grateful for my blessings as I know what God and faith can do for you. This have been such an incredible year for me better than I could have ever dreamt possible.

I got to finish my book, I got to become more involved in my church and community, I got to become closer to my girls my friends and nature with a trip of a lifetime to New York, I got to cross off my bucket list a trip to Greece with my best friend, I had an incredible 50th birthday with the one’s I love and I got to fulfill yet another thing on my vision board by buying a home of my dreams.

Yes,this year I am so very grateful for all I have and all the lessons I have learned. I learned I don’t need a man, I learned that even if the rug is pulled out from under you yet again, I had the strength to get back up stronger than before. I learned that family is the most important and friendships can outlast marriages.

I learned to go with the flow, to pray and let God worry, to be in the moment, I unfortunately learned again by losing  a childhood friend way to young that life is way too short not to enjoy each and every moment. I learned the biggest lesson, to never stop believing, never give up and never lose faith.

Yes, this year I have so many things to be grateful for that I will need 363 more days to give thanks for all of them,not just this one special day.

So today my friends,yes stop  and give thanks and remember all the blessings you have but don’t stop there, make every  day a day of thanksgiving.

Have a wonderful day full of love and peace to all.

Dating today…it’s a trio5

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Dating today…what a trip

Yesterday  I wrote about the do’s and don’ts of online dating and as I thought about it I realized how dating has changed since the last time I was single which was many moons ago,yeah like 25 of them.

Years ago you met someone out or your friends introduced you to someone, if you came from a small town like me you knew that person or knew of them. You could easily find out the deal and what that person was like, today living in a big city, not so much.

Now we meet people online,we don’t know anything about them except what they write about themselves and most of the time that is bull!

Besides in today’s world even the people you thought you knew sometimes turn out to be Mr.Con Artist, so you have to be very careful. I met a guy online recently and we were planning to meet, he actually thought he was coming to my house… really? ?

I told him, look I don’t know you, I would never just let a stranger come to my home. I am a New Yorker, I grew up with 5 locks on my doors, my mom saying  “don’t answer that door, see who it is”
“don’t let anyone in, don’t trust anyone” so I come from that street smart mentality about watching your back.

He actually gave me aditude about not letting him come by,he asked “don’t you trust me?”
Dude I don’t know you from adam, I met you online a minute ago and yup I don’t trust you” Hello get real!

So here are some safety tips for the newly dating from a real New Yorker.

1-I am not letting anyone where I live.

2- I will meet you in a public place and tell my friends where I will be, with who and what time.

3- I won’t be going to your house or anywhere not in public.

4. You won’t be meeting my girls unless we have been dating for months and we are getting serious and even then…I not so sure.

5. I will be doing a background check on you after 3 dates, be ready… sorry if you don’t like it, then you must have something to hid.

6. If something doesn’t feel right, go with you gut, listen and run, Forrest run!

7. If he’s rude, creepy or slimy get up and leave, you owe him nothing besides he doesn’t know where you live, who cares what he thinks.

8. Do not settle for a man, any man because you are afraid to be alone (more on that one tomorrow )

9. Don’t be afraid to speak up or speak your mind, be yourself because trying to keep up trying to be someone else is exhausting.

10. Have fun, look at it as a adventure if anything you will have something to talk about and laugh about with your bestie in the morning.

So today my friends, go out and date but be careful, stay smart and listen to your inner voice,it is never wrong.

The do’s and don’ts of online dating


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The do’s and don’ts of on line dating

Okay,since I’ve been dating, there are so many things I have seen out there that are such turn off’s, these are the things that me and my bestie laugh about every morning. This is just from a women’s perspective, you men can chime in with what we do to turn you off, as I can only speak from what I see.

1.I don’t need to see what you looked like 30 years ago, most likely you looked better than and it’s just a tease.

2. I don’t want to see your dog, cat or other animals, I am not dating them and they are most likely another tease because they are also better looking than you.

3. I don’t need to see pictures of your boat, car, house or motorcycle, I am not impressed.(please see #1 &2)

4. If you don’t say anything about yourself, I keep going, I want to be drawn in, if your funny let it show, if your romantic put it down, tell me about yourself, otherwise I think your boring and I go, next!

5. Please take close up and full body shots, look we all have our types, I like athletic guys, that’s me and for God’s sake put up more than one picture,I went on a date and walked around for 15 minutes looking for him, because he looked nothing like his one picture.

6. If you do get in touch, please don’t call me baby, honey, sweetie or sexy, you don’t even know me, it’s offensive and right there it gets you to the door, next!

7 . Don’t say things through texts or emails that you would never have the balls to say in person! Really! Nough said

8. Do you read? If you did you you would have read that I am not looking to hook up, so don’t ask, don’t send me a picture of your ass or any other body part! Yuck! What part of not looking to hook up don’t you get?

9. Don’t keep asking me to send you pictures how many do you need to see? Ask me out, see the real thing!

10.Be a gentleman, yes we still like that, open doors, pull out chairs, at least offer to buy us a cup of coffee.

11. don’t talk about what bitches your ex was, be yourself for God’s sake its a date, were not getting married, have fun.

Yes, it has been a trip but even though I haven’t found a love connection yet, I have meet some really great guys that are now my friends.

And every day I get to trade war stories with my bestie and laugh and isn’t that what life is really about? The laughter and the memories. …

So today my friends try new things but remember my tips and just go with a open mind ,without prescription judgements and a great sense of humor!

Peace through the storm

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Through the storm I have peace

I am human, I have doubts, I question why? Even though I gave it over to God and know he will take care of it, I still occasionally slip and fall.

It is a practice, I have to continue over and over, when I first gave it over it was when I was so over stressed my hair was falling out, I lost a lot of weight and I thought I was having a heart attack and went to have all kinds of tests, as I have a horrible family history  of heart problems.

As it turned out I was stressed, no duh! And now I was more stressed because of all these doctor bills when I finally hit rock bottom, I laid on the floor  and cried for help, l was done, I couldn’t do this anymore alone. That day I decided to let it all go I was giving it to God and I was not going to worry about what I couldn’t change.

When  later on when I thought I had met the “one” and he turned out to be the “one your mother warned you about” I slipped but just as fast, I went and let it go again because I know what peace feels like and I wanted  that peace back,at any cost.

Recently when all these things were coming at me, I again slipped and yes,I made myself sick, come to think of it the last time I was sick was the last time I slipped as well, yes,  I literally made myself sick with worry.
I then realized with all kinds of messages I got from God that I am not paying attention to the signs.

This is a sign,getting sick is a sign, turning on the radio and hearing someone say slow down is a sign, going to church  and the message is be still and let God do what he said he would do, is definitely a sign and I have to listen.

So today my friends listen  to the signs, listen to your body, listen to that inner voice and let go of the stress and the fear and find the peace through the storm.

Changes they are coming

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Changes they are coming…

If you read my blog you know I was afraid of change, I was stuck in a horrible marriage for 24 years because of fear, fear of not being able to take care of myself, fear of losing my kids and fear of change.

Heart pounding, throat tightening, hand sweating fear! Yes, fear controlled my life, change was going to have to take me kicking and screaming but when you wake up and enough is enough, when your sick and tired of being sick and tired, when you hit rock bottom, there is no where to go and nothing else to do but change, you close your eyes, you give it to God and you pray as you jump off that cliff.

The last three years has had more change than the last twenty years. I am talking about scary, big changes, at first I questioned everything, how can I do this without my mom and dad? (who both passed within 3 years of each other) can I do this on my own? How can I pay my bills? What if I don’t find a job? What about my girls, is this the right thing for them?

So many unanswered questions. In the end all of the questions didn’t matter, I had to get out, I was dying and and I was in survival mode, flight or fight, I was doing both! I had no job, I just started my own business, I hadn’t paid bills or taxes on my own in 24 years, he took care of everything.

I moved into my own house, bought my own car, started living my own life. All big, scary things but guess what? The change didn’t kill me, yes at first it was scary, the unknown always is but I was doing it, not liking it all, but I was doing it.

The rug was pulled out from under me yet again when I thought I had found a great guy but turned out to be a nightmare, but I got through that change too. Yesterday God decided he has a sense of humor and my landlord told me she was selling my house, really? ? I not even there a full year, you got to be kidding? I am good with change but can you at least give me a little break here? Well I did what I been doing for the last 3 years, I prayed, I tossed out fear on its ear, I let doubt out the back door and I gave anxiously a kick in the ass.

I got this, change no longer scares me. I prayed and decided to see if I can buy this place, if its meant to be, it will be and if its not in God’s will, I will be packing and moving yet again! Gone are the days that I stress so much that I can’t sleep, that I have to be rushed to the hospital for chest pains or my hair falls out in clumps, no I refuse to go there.

I have sick, sick faith, it will all be okay, I cannot change anything with worry or fear so why bother? I am good, God’s got this, I will sit back and go for the ride, praising all the way to wherever it leads me.

So today my fiends, remember don’t be afraid of change, don’t let fear grip you so bad that your stuck and dying in that spot. Yes, it will be okay, just have faith, close your eyes and yell weeeeeee what a great ride this life truly is.

When thing’s are going good there is always someone or something who wants to cut you down

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When things are going good there is always someone or something who wants to cut you down

Yes, I have had hard times and yes, I have have good times, this is life but people think that when you become born again that all your problems magical go away.

Ha, that is farthest from the truth, no you have more problems as if everything is trying to tempt you, mock you saying  “oh yes you believe but look how well this one is doing and they are not a believer”

I remember when I finally got divorce and moved into my own place,so many great things happened for me and my life and I thought yes, this is finally  my season, then I met a man who I thought loved me and remembered thinking, now I have it all…when  BAM! The rug was pulled out from under me and I found out he was a lying, cheating dog, I was crushed yet I pulled myself back up and kept going, kept believing that my God would take care of me and he did, he healed my broken  heart and made me stronger and taught me and my girls an incredible lesson.

Then my life was starting to go great again and all of a sudden Bam! Business changes and many problems with my ex, they say that living well is the best revenge and I am certainly living well but it is killing my ex to see me doing all of this on my own, traveling around the world with my best friend who he hated, taking care of myself  which he told me so many times I could never do.

Yes, he sees how happy I am so and he must try to take back that control he once had and he has cut off my measly child  support. I then lose the deal to my house I was buying.

I have to tell you I am human I had a pity party, I cried, I was pissed, why me God? Haven’t I done all you’ve asked of me?  Am I not faithful? Do I not serve?  But then I remember that it will be alright and I know he will take care of me and I know there will always be haters and something out there trying to cut me down but I can’t lose hope, I must have faith and so I look down at that tattoo on my foot that says “believe ” I take a deep breath, I give thanks for all my blessings and I know it will be okay.

And guess what….yup I got a better,cheaper house, more business and I know that soon, very soon he will be very sorry for cutting off my child support, that all of this will right itself.

So today my friends I tell you all of this to let you know you are not alone, there will be good times  and there will be dark times, it is all to build your faith, to give you a testimony to tell others, it is all so that you keep believing that this too shall pass…

Thank you for your service. .

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Thank you for your service. .

Today is a day we thank the brave men and women that serve or had served in our armed forces. It’s sad that in today’s world we need designated day to thank people that we care about or to tell we are proud of.

We should tell them every  chance we get, there is nothing that warms my heart more then walking in a airport and telling or hearing someone tell a soldier in uniform thank you…that simple two words that mean so much to them.

These brave men and women CHOOSE to fight for our country, they don’t have to, they want to! Big difference! I come from a military family, my both dad’s (my step father Nunu and my real dad Louie) served in the  Air force and the Navy  respectively. All of my dad’s siblings served, my cousins served, my Nunu marched every Veterans and Memorial day in uniform until he could no longer walk and then he sat in his wheelchair in uniform saluting the others that walked as he once had. I know what it is like to be a proud American family  that served it’s country.

Many of my friends and boyfriend’s served as well, this is something to be proud of, for each and every one of us should stand up and thank them as much and as often as we can.

People treated them with disrespect because it wasn’t “our war” that was not up to them, they serve the way their  country needs them to serve without question.
What kind of country let’s our service people come home and get no medical care? No jobs? No mental care after all they seen and done, things we could never imagine,just to keep us free.

Our senators and house representatives get lifetime pay for what?sitting on their ass’s in Washington? No our service people should be getting that! They deserve it, they fought, they deserve our love, our respect and our funds.

So today my friends don’t wait for a “special “day to thank the brave men and women that serve to keep us free, make every day be a “special ” day because it is….you are free because of them, special enough?

Thank you all for your service, thank you for keeping me free so that I may worship who I chose, that I may chose my president and be able to write what I feel each and every day….thank you…thank you..

Hope lifted up in dry places

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Hope lifted up in dry places

Helen Keller and Elie Wiesel, here are two people who had hope when there was darkness, who believed in hope. Who never gave up on hope.These people still believed in the goodness of people even when they saw the worst in some people.
They could have been bitter and angry for all they went through  and saw and yet they chose not be, they chose to love, to be positive and to forgive.

This is a choice, a choice you make, you choose to believe, to have hope, to have faith, this is all about how you choose to look at life.

Why is it that people today don’t believe in faith, in religion? They don’t want to see it, don’t want it in our schools, on social media but yet when they have hard times they want to know your faith, they want you to pray for them, they pray because they have nothing else, no where else to turn.

Do you do it? Or do you come off with “What now you believe?”
This is a test of how good a Christian you are. Do you show love? Or do you let ego in and say “told you so”
My Bishop asked if your ex came and wanted to know of your faith,would you slam the door in their face?

That was a tough question for me, but even after all the hurt  he has and continues to cause me, I still pray for him, I still try to do the right thing,I never speak bad of him in front of my girls, I even push them to spend more time with him and his family. So I can say I would  tell him and anyone else about my great and might God.

You’ve been hurt by people you loved and trusted, you have a hard heart you are bitter against people and it has made your life harder.
You are carrying around all this bitterness, it is eating at your heart like a cancer. You need to forgive, I know your thinking  forgive, are you nuts? Do you know what they did? Yes, even in spite of what they did, you need to forgive.

Forgiveness is for you not them, you need to learn to let it go and you need to pray for them.

You feel you don’t have it to give because you have a hard heart and you are in too much pain.
You need to leave all your burdens down, give it to God and know that he will fulfill your every need.

Let it go no matter what they’ve  done could it be any worst than what Elie Wiesel went through?   Being in a constration camp for years? Seeing all of your family and friends being killed off in ovens? No food, no clothes, no heat, horrible conditions that we couldn’t even imagine,that no one should ever have to be in, year after year? No, what you’ve  been through could never compare and yet this man Elie Wiesel, forgave, he chose to see the good, to see the best in people, to have faith and hope in the worst of conditions and he let it go. Even in the worst of conditions he had hope.

So today my friends, even when things look bleak,when you can’t see the sun and you feel  you’ve hit rock bottom, it is up to you to hold on to that glimmer of hope even as small as a mustard seed, to forgive those who have hurt you and pray for them and to let it go and let God. There will be better days ahead, Elie Wiesel is living proof of that…

Miracles can happen if you believe

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Miracles can happen if you believe

I am always telling you to put it out there, believe that anything is possible. I have so much faith that I even had the word believe tattooed on my foot, so that I could look at it every day and know I believe in my God, I believe in love, I believe in myself, I believe I can do this. .

I tell you over and over, dream about it, envision it, feel it like it is real, put it out In the universe and it will happen.
I know this because I have done it, I got this home, I got this life, I got this business all from putting these actions in place

Well, if you weren’t a believer before this will definitely make you one, about a month ago I  am at church and a visiting pastor is there and he says there is someone here who is looking to buy a house, we were reading Proverbs 15.50, so he said sow a seed of $15.50  and you will get this house for 150,000. I was in negotiations with my landlord for my house, I am renting so I sowed a seed for 150.50 and put my demand on it.

Later on my girlfriend Lyra said ”  will get your house for 150,000 I told her that she was crazy, that nothing sells in my neighborhood for that price and then I went and gave my landlord an offer for that amount, just for kicks and they turned me down, we negotiate and they gave me a price they wanted, I agreed and wrote up a contract and sent it to them.

They tell me I know it’s worth more and they want 10,000 more than the original agreed upon price. I am pissed, we agreed, I gave them their full asking price, is anyone honorable anymore? Obviously not! I am heartbroken, I sit in my pj’s all day, I cry , I have a big pity party with whine and cheese! 

Then I pray and I realized that my God can do anything and I give it to him. A week later a friend of mine says she knows a house by owner so she talks to the owner and guess what I just got the house for 150,000.

When I called Lyra, she reminded me about that pastor’s sermon which I had forgotten, I am blown away… yes, I believe but this is incredible…
Yes, even me a believer am speechless… If this isn’t a testimony I don’t know what is…
My God is so good and I am truly grateful and blessed.

So today my friends remember when one door closes, God will make another way and open another door for you. Never give up hope, never stop believing, it is posible… I am living proof

You never know until you try

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You never know until you try…..

I always talk about trying new things and changing your life, it’s up to you.
How do you know if you like or don’t like something until you try? Change is not a bad word if you embrace it.

I was talking to a friend last night and she was working 18 years for one company that was closing, she was worried and was making herself sick thinking about things that she had no idea would or word not happen.

We all worry about things we can’t change but if you worry does it change anything?  No, it will make you lose sleep, it will make your hair fall out , it will make you run to the doctor thinking you are having a heart attack.

It will physically make you sick, believe me I know, I had all these symptoms and more and did it make my problems away? No! I was more worried about how I was going to pay the doctors bills! So now I even had more stress that is when I realized why worry?  That day I let it go, what if….no no more what if’s either, I let them go too.

What if I crossed the street and get hit by a bus, should I never leave my house?

What if. … will rob you of your future, it will make you afraid of living life.
Should have… another killer, you live with regrets and in the  past.
These will all make you lose focus on the here and now.

So today my friends let go of the fear, let go of the what if’s , let go of should haves, live for the moment, embrace change, look for the good in every opportunity, believe me it’s there and it is such a better way to live your life!