17 Jun Putting in the effort until you get someone

Putting in the effort until you get someone

So why is it that when you start seeing somebody they put so much effort into trying to get you? They will wine and dine you. They will put their best foot forward showing you their best side.
They will call you everyday, text you good morning baby and good evening sweetie.
Text messages that say Honey, how was your day? Can’t wait to see you.
All the things that you long to hear but yet as soon as you get into a relationship or when you’ve slept with them, all of a sudden this starts to fall off.

Sometimes it all comes to a stop. All of a sudden now it’s just good morning or sometimes even the dreaded GM text. There is no I’m missing you text, thinking of you texts, hell, not even a good night text. Just some bullshit sporadic texts to keep you holding on.

Relationships are like a job, it takes work. You must put in the work to get something out of it especially when it comes to women. A woman needs to feel like a man is trying, that he cares.
Now before the haters come at me, let me say that this goes both ways for men and women. I believe everyone in a relationship must give 100 percent. There is no slacking off, no, I don’t feel like it, you must constantly keep the fire alive.

One of my favorite quotes is by an old friend he said.
“He’s got to bring more to the table than just his dick”
Absolutely! A lousy Gm text is not cutting it. And I know that it goes both ways, you both have to make an effort, put in time and your hearts into making it work.

Now some people will say well, I am busy and I get it but trust and believe you make time for what is important to you. But you weren’t that busy when you were trying to get the cookie…Hello, I’m calling bullshit here!

That is the bottom line and no bullshit excuse will change that. You make time for exercise, you make time for your friends. You make time for the hobbies you love, you make time to watch hours of sports teams you follow, it’s because you make time for what’s important to you, we all do.

Some people, especially men, are shocked when their woman asks for a divorce or when the other person cheats. Have you put in the effort? When was the last time you treated your significant other like you did when you were courting them? Don’t act like you’re surprised now that they found someone else to do the things you used to do but stopped.

So today my friends remember don’t just put the effort into trying to get someone, you need to consistently put the effort in.
You need to not just put on a front while you’re trying to get someone, you need to be that person all the way through. Otherwise someone else will step up to do your job.

“Be the change you want to see”
@TreadmillTreats