I remember when I had been doing a lot of “do as I say not as I do” things and at the time, I realized that not taking my own advice stinks! I tell everyone not to worry, don’t stress, make peace with those who did you wrong, let it go… 

Great advice but not so easy to do. I am human like I wrote about yesterday and occasionally I let life get the best of me.

I have come to realize my advice is really good (Yes, if I do say so myself) but I had to start listening to it!

I am not big on New Year’s resolutions but I am big on change. Years ago I said I was not going to not bring the sins of past relationships into the future and I have worked hard not to do that.

I started listening to my inner voice and God’s voice in my life. I heard my Bishop say you need to love your enemies even when they are after you and my inner voice said to listen. 

I remember writing about my ex and how what he had been doing had affected me. I was angry, I wanted vengeance, I wanted him to suffer like I suffered for 24 years but that is not “Christ like” 

I really didn’t want to feel like this about anyone. This feeling had ruined the peace and joy I have in my life.

So I wrote this to him.

Today, I apologize for all the unkind words I spoke to you.

I do not wish to fight with you anymore. I am sorry for my role I played in the demise of our marriage.

I have forgiven you for what had happened and your part and I hope one day you will forgive me for what I did. 

We have children, and we will always be connected through them. There was a time when they were born that we were happy. Unfortunately it didn’t work out between us, but it doesn’t mean that we have to go on hating each other and trying to hurt one another.

From today on if you want to keep this going, that will be on you. I will no longer play a role in it. If you want to take me to court, go ahead…If you want to say bad things about me, it’s okay. If you want to be vindictive and get back at me…go for it.

I will no longer be playing this game with you. I wish you well. I hope one day you can be happy. I chose to live my life with peace and joy and hope you will learn to do the same.

Your actions will no longer affect me or my life. From this day forward I will try my best to be “Christ-like” 

To learn to forgive, to love my enemies and to live my life not affected by what you do or do not do. So today I am letting this go and I am hoping you will as well.

I wrote this and then I let it go. Did it help? He still won’t talk to me but I am at peace with that. I no longer hate him or hold any negative feelings towards him. This is his issue not mine. I pray he learns to forgive and let go.

So today my friends feel free to copy and paste and send to your ex. It’s not about them, it’s not about if they respond kindly or not, this is for you. This will change your life just like forgiving others, it’s about you not holding on to the hatred that is killing you while they go about their lives. This is you letting go and doing the right thing, whether or not they do.

Let it go….let it go….let it go.

“Be the change you want to see”

@TreadmillTreats