16 Nov Your fantasy and your reality are two different things

Your fantasy and your reality are not always the same

Sometimes we remember things, things that happen in our past and sometimes that is not always the reality of our memories.

Sometimes we build things up in our minds, like when someone passes away. We tend to put them on a pedestal even if in real life they were horrible people. Somehow our memories get twisted because they are now dead and all of a sudden all the bad things they’ve done have vanished and they become saints in our minds.

Same thing with past loves…you remember them, you cherish the memories with them and when you go back and try to relive them it’s just not the same. You’ve changed, they changed, times have changed and somehow it is never like you remember it.

I was speaking to a friend last night and even though she left an abusive relationship she was now thinking of him. She was thinking of the good times and how she missed them.
We all do that but we have to look at the big picture, if it was so great we would still be there right?

There are some people who keep going back, time and time again, fighting against all odds to try to make it like it was before. They can’t let go of the feelings they have every time they think of that person. They so want it to be like it was before, they are stuck on stupid, like I always write about. They are trying over and over to fit this round peg into a square hole, banging it in there because somehow it must fit.

This might be because they might have a soul connection that they can’t seem to break. So every time they are together the soul feels something even when their head is telling them it’s not there anymore.
Yet this incredible pull will not let them go…no matter how many times they go back, how many times they are hurt. It’s like an addiction, hoping the next time will be like the first time.

As much as we would like to relive the past, it is done. Sometimes the past is there to teach you a lesson, some people are just in your life for a season. Not everyone can come along for the long haul, that is just how life is. Sometimes the most painful thing is to let go and admit it is over.

Now I know that it is a really hard thing to do, especially if you’re like me and are a pleaser and a perfectionist. I don’t want to give up, I’m not willing to admit defeat. I will keep trying, I will keep beating that dead horse, praying it will get up again even when I know it won’t, because I don’t want to quit.

I keep thinking about all the good times and somehow forget about all the things they’ve done that hurt me or piss me off. Until you are there again and these things come back, these things that annoy you or hurt you again. Yet so many of us keep going back because we see that tiny glimpse of good, of fun times, of the person we fell in love with and that makes us blind to the rest.

But we must…we must do the very thing that hurts us the most, to continue to grow. We need to move on to better things that are waiting for us, but only if we let them. Only if we walk away for what is no longer for us.
That door closed for a reason, leave it closed, move on, it will be okay.

So today my friends, my message to you is to know when your fantasy is a fantasy and know when to realize that this is really your reality. Sometimes it’s the hardest choice you have to make, to be able to see the difference.

“Be the change you want to see”
@TreadmillTreats